To give up this friendship?

[thelastgoonthemerrygo]

My friend moved to London and it’s always me making the effort to go and see her, which I kind of got because I live near her family so when she comes back she spends time with them.

I messaged her a while ago snd said do you have any free weekends in November and she said she’d check and she never got back to me. I messaged her 4 days ago saying - did you check the dates? And she’s not responded.

Just makes me feel shit, like she’s an old friend and I consider her a good friend and she said last time I saw her that “I’m one of her best friends”. But it doesn’t feel that way.

Maybe try actually speaking to her? Could it be that she's been too busy to get back to you, or is sick or anything? On the other hand, all too often when a person moves away, even if they come back to the area to visit family, friendships can fall through the net, as you're no longer on the doorstep. In your shoes OP, I'd ring her, and if she doesn't pick up, then I'd let the friendship go, as she's obviously no longer interested.

Has she recently got in a new all consuming relationship?

I think you either address it directly, or just take no further action - the ball is in her court.

Personally, I do the latter.

You live near her family yet when she comes to visit she can't spare an afternoon for her good friend?
In my mind you shouldn't be the one making ALL the effort to visit her in London. Surely if you were important to her she'd at least visit you when she's local and seeing family.

I'd wait for her to contact you.