To just want to get ready and go out

[Hateputtingpetrolin]

Plan was to take Dd to a pancake house for breakfast/brunch, then the playground. It’s around 30/35 minutes away.
We’re only just leaving now
Dh asleep on the sofa until just before 10, slowly gets coffee, goes to the toilet gor about an hour, takes his time getting ready.
In this time, I’ve done Dds breakfast, washed up, tidied, done a load of washing, got Dds clothes ready, done her hair, got her snacks and water bottle ready etc etc
Dd lounging around the sofa, not getting ready, excusable as she’s only little.
I’m not a morning person by any means, but after being woken by Dd at 6.45, Aibu to just want to get ready and go out…easily

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If he’s not ready just go, as long as you wait around there’s no incentive for him to get ready. I don’t think it’s fair for you to have to waste half your day while me mooches about doing nothing.

Now at the petrol station-he put petrol in and now casually stood outside drinking coffee…let’s just go!

Tell him that you are leaving at X time, and then go. If he's not ready, you go without him. If you hang around with small children others things crop up and you never get out the house.

I would say you should have gone without him, but that's probably part of his master plan.

Why would it be you up with DD so early - where was DH?

The trouble with PP suggestion of “leave without him at X time” is that he then gets a child free day, and @Hateputtingpetrolin gets to look after her DD alone, which I’m guessing she has more than her fair share of during the week.

I said I could go alone with her (easier tbh) but I know she’d want him there and he should really come. Didn’t do anything yesterday apart from me taking her food shopping

You're not bu, but does it really matter? It's Sunday, just relax

I'm in two minds about this. I think your dh should definitely be doing his fair share of weekend parenting including getting up but I would not plan something in the morning if not absolutely necessary. Occasionally maybe but I try avoid anything on a weekend that means getting up and immediately getting ready to go out. I rush around all week, get up early and have to stick to strict time commitments that I don't really want to do. So weekends are to slow down, mooch about and drink coffee without feeling under pressure to get going. Did you both organise this activity?

I can see why the faffing annoys you but I wouldn’t want to up and out at the crack of dawn on a Sunday either.

Given that your DD has already had her breakfast, surely it makes more sense to be at the pancake house for an early lunch rather than in the morning for breakfast/brunch anyway?

I'd just go without him. It's probably what he's angling for anyway!