Should I let her take a bed?

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DD (16) is staying at her dad's tonight. Arranged last week. She stays with him intermittently.

We've been divorced 3 years, 20 married. He always left life admin to me.

DD doesn't have a bedroom at her dad's...long story. He took the camp beds for the kids to sleep on when he first moved out to temporary accommodation. He's now in his own place.

DD has just asked me where the airbeds are so she can take one tonight.

Seems the camp beds are in storage.

WTF does he still expect me to solve his frikking problems? If I say no, I look a bitch. If I say yes, DD will have an uncomfortable night.

AIBU to say no, get dad to sort the problem?

Sorry but not letting her take the airbed is punishing her, not him. Telling her to relay messages to her 'feckless dad' is putting her in an uncomfortable situation. I've been the child with a fairly feckless dad when they first split. He couldn't cook. He'd forget holidays, he never communicated outside of visit times. But you know what, I'm so grateful to my parents for keeping the fighting backstage. For never speaking ill of one another, even when you could tell things were tense. That has helped me have a good relationship with him now.

I'm just saying, think about what you're putting on her.

Thread is six months old. They have probably sorted it now.

Oops 🤐 😇

Oooooh zombie thread. But did she ever get a bed?