To think I did the right thing?

[Summertimeblue]

Basically , I’ve lived with my awful brother all my life , he was abusive to me all my life. He was physically, emotionally and sexually abusive to me my whole childhood . And I’ve always stood in for him, with everything from caring for his kids to covering for him when he was in trouble. I’ve had enough now , I’ve basically grassed him up to his girlfriend that he’s seeing the other inappropriately young girlfriend , while neglecting his children. I feel a bit vulnerable and scared and like I’ve broken the family code but I’m the only person brave enough to to do this. I want to break the cycle. He’s a bad person, his kids deserve better , they get better when he’s not around. But I’d rather take some responsibility for them and help them when he’s not around .

Only you can say but from what you have written I am not sure you can be blamed for standing up for nieces / nephews. horrid situation & I can see why you think scary . All the very nest wishes to you

@BasiliskStare I’ve stood in for this twat all his life, bought his kids things they needed and looked after their mums. In an act of anger and violence I’ve told some people the truth, I didn’t want this to continue, basically I’ve told two women they are being used and cocked lodged, he doesn’t know where I live. It’s mad when when you can’t let your own brother know where you live, he hates me though, he’s used previous address’s of mine for fraud. I had to tell this girl, she’s disabled , she’s on PIP and he’s using her and taking the piss. I’m gutted I’ve had to do this. I had to step in Though . I can’t let this go on .

@Summertimeblue - look after yourself . Do not let yourself be used for fraud. You have said what you think needed to be said. I would give it a while now but do look after yourself. It is the main thing - otherwise you cannot look after others.

I do sincerely wish you well.

Far from being unreasonable you have been very brave.
It may take time but these women will eventually be grateful to you.
You have give them the opportunity to free themselves from this awful man.
Stay strong. ❤️

Nah you've done the right thing. A man who abused you is NOT your family. You owe him no loyalty, no protection and no love.

He deserves to have his life ground into the earth until it is dust. Well done.

Oh and take time to be kind to yourself. Hug yourself, be proud of yourself. It's not about him... you are the centre of your life. He's a dickhead clinging to your vines.