”You’re not missing out on anything”

[DidIMissOut]

Been single all my life (not by choice), just hasn’t worked out for me and this has been said to me quite a few times, haven’t asked.
People just say it.
Anyway, I was reading stuff about this subject, someone else was wondering why their friend was single bla bl bla, and so many commenters said the title.
”Good for her, it’s not like she’s missing out on anything”.

For those lycky kne’s from the other side, a question:
Why do people say this?

I completely agree. And some people then fall in love when they are already with someone...

@DidIMissOut "Why do people say this?"

Because it's better than "oh, how sad for you!"
It's honestly just small talk.

Because the grass is always greener.

I often think I'd be happier being child free and single. But I also know that I WAS very happy single and child free. You can't undo children.

I'm married... and my thoughts are, are you bored of being happy?

Marriage is just a way of taking the person you love most in the world and turning them into someone you despise... or they're kind enough to expedite that by cheating etc.

Plus, if you are actually interested in men, don't come on MN, you'll only hear the worst things... it's like if you want children, don't talk to a primary school teacher.

and my thoughts are, are you bored of being happy?

Was this question for me?
I don’t ynderstand it.

To be honest I’m in a lovely relationship with someone I truly love and he is a good partner and because I was single 14 years I often miss those days . Simply because being I a relationship is good but also makes things more complex .
I should add op that despite having children ( 2 children prior to my partner ) I still found love at 38 , we have been together just over 3 years , I’m now 41 . So it’s not too late to find love .

'Marriage is just a way of taking the person you love most in the world and turning them into someone you despise... or they're kind enough to expedite that by cheating etc.'

😂😂😂😂 that's brilliant. And spot on.

@Cucucucu
Everybody's still in love after 3 years. That's the honeymoon period. I expect the people saying the comment that the op doesn't like, are in LTRs - say 10 years plus - because that's when the problems start.

This.

Some people are willing to be in a less than perfect relationship for nothing more than the company it brings.

And for having children.

That’s when you are young , at 40 I think most people accelerate the relationships as we all have kids , jobs etc . We had a very rough year too so was far from a honeymoon ( not issues between us )