to think that this is a cop-out gift?

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So for DH's birthday I have named our house. Cut a long story short he only had one real family member that wasn't abusive/neglectful towards him and very sadly he died a couple of years ago.
We have since bought our own house and before that we always fantasised about naming our house after DH's late family member as a gesture to remember him by, especially as some money he left us helped with the deposit.
DH has everything he could want in terms of physical possessions so I decided to go ahead and rename the house officially, giving him the confirmation letter printed nicely on card in an envelope as the "gift giving" itself. I've also ordered a sign to mount above the door but that won't arrive until after his birthday now because the seller just messaged to say she's been on holiday.
At the time I applied a few weeks ago I thought this was a really sweet idea (I am still confident that DH will love it) but now it seems like a bit of a cop-out "gift" as its both of our house not just his and it isn't an idea i came up with on my own, it's something we've discussed before. It cost about £50 which is as much as we usually spend for birthdays anyway but I am wondering do i just say bugger it and get him something else as well? He's not as sentimental as I am and I am worried he will be secretly disappointed to not "get a present" that's just for him.

I think it sounds nice.

If he has everything he wants, then there's no point in buying things for the sake of it.

You could maybe add some favourite chocs or something if he might want something more tangible?

I think that’s a lovely gift!

I think it’s a lovely gift. If he’s got everything you’d just be buying for the sake of buying which I never agree with

It’s a nice present given the history.

A proper cop out gift is those “Name a Star” or buying someone a Lordship. 🙄

I think that is a lovely gift!

It sounds lovely. Buy him some beers or some fizz to toast the relative’s memory?

I think it's a lovely idea as well, and some fizz to toast the relative (or a nice meal out to celebrate your new house) is a perfect addition.

I also think the best gifts aren't about material things or money spent, but the thought and love put into it - and you've definitely done the latter.

It's lovely!
Get a ribbon across the door and get him to formally cut it 😂 Then crack open a drink!

Is there some other ‘house’ type gift he’d appreciate too - any hobbies relating to house & home he’d like, or a small gift like a fancy key ring

I think it sounds like a lovely gift

A proper cop out gift is those “Name a Star” or buying someone a Lordship.

Not if the person is into astronomy and/or stargazing.

Thanks everyone! I'm feeling a lot better now, so appreciate your input on this. I think getting a bottle of bubbly to toast to the relative is a nice addition. Unfortunately DH is a very practical person and hates "trinkety" gifts like keyrings - I love the idea but he is too sensible for that and only has one keyring, which is a little pouch with his blood type on, a pair of gloves for giving first aid and a CPR face shield🙈

I think its a nice idea but only you know really how it will be recieved. I know my DH wouldn't like something like that he wouldn't really consider it a gift.

Could you make it some kind of event? For instance, if he was out on his birthday (work?) put a ribbon across the door and make a name plate for now and then when he comes home, give him his card so he can read what you've done, cut the ribbon and crack open the bubbly?

I think it's perfect

^^ this

I love it (but then I’m a female).

I would get something extra too because as you say you’ve already both discussed it so it’s not really a surprise.

Is there anything else he’d want for a tenner.

You could get a photo of this family member blown up and framed or something just as an additional gift (I’m not sure if a man would like this though).

It's thoughtful, meaningful and personal. Those are the best gifts.

A bottle of something nice to toast your relative, and your lovely safe home you built together - a safe home he never ever had as a boy.

That's so lovely.