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For always wanting to be at home?

4 replies

Dearly89 · 07/09/2023 17:11

Hi all!
Just wondering if anyone else feels the same way!
I really just don't like going out. Not in the way that I get scared/anxious or straight up refuse to go outside, I would just always rather be at home.

I do not live with my boyfriend but we go to eachother's houses at the weekends. For example, if I had the option to go out for dinner with my boyfriend or we have a date night cooking at home, I'd always want to stay in. If my boyfriend ever asks if I want to come with him to Tesco, I never want to and usually say no. I feel bad but he says he doesn't mind either way and often seems relieved when I say I'd prefer we stay in. We do go out on date nights, but always agree that we would have a better time at home together so they are becoming more often now. We have a lovely relationship.

Whenever I have social plans coming up, I always dread them. Once I am out the house, I often end up wanting to go home after a few hours but I don't bail on plans or leave early for the sake of others. I am very extroverted socially and always feel very tired and drained after social events, but always perk back up and get my energy back when I am home.

When I have plans with my closest friends, I don't want to leave or feel tired, but before I leave the house I dread the thought of having to go out.

I have spoken to my boyfriend's sister about this. She is autistic and I have always found comfort in her, especially at family events, because I feel she understands me. Part of me suspects I might have some form of high-masking autism which is why I feel so socially drained, but I'm in no position to self-diagnose.

Otherwise, I am nearly 25 and happy with a very full life, alongside some occasional anxieties and stresses. (Nothing major or out of the norm!) I also have a full time job which I love and have no issues going to work but do feel very drained and need to recharge on my own for a while when I get home.

Would love to hear if anybody else feels the same way I do and this is just normal for some?
Thank you xx

OP posts:
BibbleandSqwauk · 07/09/2023 17:44

My DD is a little like you. She's early teens and has a "social battery" that runs low after a while. Even her very best friends, who she loves and is very loud and silly with, have a limited time. It's not really an issue at the moment. I suppose you have to be careful though, that if you go on to have children you don't limit their social opportunities by always preferring to stay home.

BlastedSkreet · 07/09/2023 17:45

I fee the same way but I am nearly 50! Home is my safe place with all my favourite people and things. And it is peaceful here.

UpaladderwatchingTV · 07/09/2023 17:48

I've not always been like this, but since moving to a very rural and beautiful part of the country, where all I look out at is trees, fields and farm animals, I have no real desire to go anywhere else. Like you, I can do it if I need to, but for the most part just don't really want to as I have everything I want at home, including a wonderful DH.

Batalax · 07/09/2023 18:05

I’ve got increasingly like it as I’ve got older, unless it’s something really exciting like going away for the weekend. Quite often I can’t be bothered to go out, but I know if I make the effort I’ll enjoy myself.

I think you can be an extrovert when with people but also have introvert tendencies and enjoy your own company. I’ve always needed alone time.

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