To wonder if my daughter isn’t ready for school

[Moocoww]

It’s only day two of reception and I know I need to give it time but I’m just worried. I think she is finding it very over whelming and tiring. She was very grumpy when she came out yesterday. She doesn’t want to wear uniform and wants to wear her own clothes and gets really upset when getting ready in the morning. Today she was in floods of tears when I dropped her off and then ran off out the entrance of reception into the play ground and said she doesn’t want to go. Just worried as all the other children seemed to go in quite happily with a hug with their mum. This morning has made me want to cry too

Also she turned 4 a month ago

That all sounds normal, it’s a massive change for them and the first week is a lot of new things and the realisation that it’s going to be every day. By the end of the first week most will be knackered and emotional.

im sure given a few weeks things will soon settle

They’re all exhausted and grumpy at the start. Talk to her teacher about how she is during the school day, and, either way, I wouldn’t make a decision for a few weeks.

I personally think that's young, only based on my experience.
Mine turned 4 in the April and the school intake for reception was the following January.

Has she been to pre school or anything without you before?

Are you working hence need her to go.

Many variables.

I remember it not being easy.

Tired and grumpy after school in the first weeks of reception is utterly normal (whatever month the birthday, and irrespective of whether the DC was already used to long days at nursery). So don't worry about that at all.

And needing a bit of cajoling to go in is incredibly common, as are tears.

When will you be able to speak to teacher or TA about how long the tears last, and how she is during the day?

It’s completely normal for them to be tired and grumpy, it’s a big change and the novelty of wearing the uniform and going everyday soon wears off. Mine is also an august born but he soon settled and made some lovely friends who are still his besties now he’s 8. It’s hard as they seem so little, the teachers will be used to having to get them in.

Thank you. she did mornings 3 days a week at preschool and enjoyed it there. I think it is just the change as she takes a while to adjust to new things. Her teacher is lovely. I just feel guilty leaving her when she is crying

I have a daughter who is end of August born and we delayed her reception start until the January rather than starting in September. We were not the only ones as there were a few August born children in her preschool who did the same. We felt that extra time really helped. Some children just are not ready at 4. It's so little.
That said, it is very early days and hopefully she will make some friends and start to enjoy it. Exhaustion is totally normal, my 16 year old still comes home knackered!!

Totally normal. My October baby struggled with tiredness and grumpiness in the first term until late primary, as did/do my March babies. There will be loads of reception children screaming on the way home because they're tired, hot and overwhelmed. And plenty not wanting to go in too.