Partner calling see you next Tuesday

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My partner and I often make lunches for each other for work. Not usually me. After dinner this evening I put some leftovers in my own lunch box. I had a lie down with the intention to check what she wanted, I was thinking a sandwich.

she came into the bed room and called me a selfish c* for not making hers. I explained my self. She didn’t believe me, and didn’t speak to me the rest of the evening. I went on a walk, when I came back the bedroom door was shut I was told
to sleep on the sofa.

I think this is not fair at all. I’ve gone to bed on the sofa but aibu or am I really in the wrong

You can say cunt, it's mumsnet.
Sounds like a misunderstanding to me. She obviously thought you intended to just make your own lunch and not bother to do her one (while, presumably she always makes you a lunch). Calling you a cunt was a bit strong though. Is she stressed about something?

Sounds a lot like PMS to me. Embarrassingly Halle a to the best of us there is no shaking our belief in this angry phase and then in a few weeks we forget all about it and realise what champs our partners are

Do you have form? It seems an odd assumption from your dp, unless you have form for being a bit selfish. Assuming no priors, I think your dp was unreasonable.

Hi op. I think this is really abusive. If my husband called me this, it would be over. It's hard to tell from a lack of context but I think this is a toxic relationship. Had one of those and there was no way back once that level of disrespect is shown.

If a man called a woman c•nt then we would all be up in arms about it

but for some reason people say it’s fine because a woman said it?!?

no you weren’t unreasonable - she sounds crazy

Seems like a bit of an overreaction? Are you sure there is nothing else going on? Hormones? Hangry? I’d probably make her lunch up and then go to try and talk.

And also it’s just a word. it’s not the end of the world. We’ve (probably) all said it. I know I have, and tbh sometimes my partner is a bit of a cunt. As am I.

That word is my line in the sand. Even if my DH if 25 years called me it in anger, I would be done.

Your partner is emotionally immature. If my dh didn’t pack my lunch and said he was going to do it later I would probably tease him a bit and then we’d forget about it.
Is your partner normally sulky?

"My partner and I often make lunches for each other for work. Not usually me."

Read this again. Your partner makes your lunch for you. You dont make it for each other. You put the leftovers in your lunchbox so it looked like you had sorted yourself out and not them.

I suspect this behaviour is typical throughout your relationship and your partner has now had enough.

Massive over reaction from your dp. Even if you had just made your own lunch, to call you a cunt and ask you to sleep on the sofa is out of order.

This. I'm surprised by how blasé the responses are.

She was verbally abusive then stonewalled him. This is unacceptable in a relationship.

OP how long have you been together? How does she normally handle conflict?

I think you have form and there's a drip feed if op returns

I read this as the OP saying that lunch making is shared and when she said not usually me, she meant it is not only her who makes lunch.

Totally unacceptable language OP. Really surprised by some of the responses. She would be out on her ear,