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I honestly do not know how my body OR my mind is coping right now

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bleedingbum · 06/09/2023 23:00

Sorry, this will include yet another little whine about my bleeding bum but in all seriousness I don’t know how I am physically coping with life right now and I could really do with some advice.

I am still in an inflammatory bowel disease flare, with constant heavy bleeding from my bum and clots. Still no follow up letter from the consultant re: camera in my small bowel.

My health feels like it is getting worse, I’m getting to the point where my body is tired and I cannot walk for too long without needing to sit down. Headaches constantly and I just have zero physical energy, but my body feels broken.

When I last went to A&E I waited until 6am for them to tell me there’s nothing more they can do until I have this scan and to follow up with GP. GP cannot see me until end of September, I have explained how I am feeling multiple times but the receptionist has said emergency appointments are for those that are life-threatening and if I’ve been in a flare for a while I can hold out, but if I needed an appointment I could call 111 but they would have to write a report as to why I NEED to urgently see a GP. I have explained that 111 will not do this because they advise A&E for rectal bleeding, even the manager at the surgery is refusing to see me until the end of the month.

to top it off I’ve got PCOS and am pre-diabetic, so add that to the mix..

I’m genuinely scared at the moment.

It’s not just this, but my 3 year old is really struggling, non-verbal and delayed developmentally (measuring around 1.5 years old), he is autistic and is having meltdowns constantly, he hits himself in the head constantly and he won’t sleep, we have so many professionals involved who are aware of this - paediatrician, speech and language, portage, health visitor - yet everyone has said we’re already doing everything right and they don’t suggest anything else so it’s just a case of trying our best with distractions and calming him down.

I’m so worried about both my health and my child, and to top it all off I run my own business and do have staff to help, but I’m struggling to keep up with my duties and am so overwhelmed, this time of year is always busy for us and I’m dreading it, I am losing all mental energy and physical energy, I am constantly apologising for mistakes right now which isn’t a good look, but all I can think about right now is how much I want my son to be ok and to focus on being there for all of the support he needs and to BE his support whilst feeling like my body is giving up on me.

this is the most outing post I will ever write but honestly I needed to vent, I’ve been sat downstairs in silence for an hour trying to summon the energy to finish today’s work but i just can’t.

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LovingLivingLife · 06/09/2023 23:08

I'm so sorry I can't offer any advice but sending hugs hoping things will resolve quickly for you.

Does your GP have other receptionists? Can you try calling back until you get a different one? Or leave it a couple of days then insist you are now severely worried due to new symptoms? Unless they want to call you a liar surely they would just have to make the appointment for you? I am genuinely shocked how much power some GP receptionists have. I am really sorry you're going through this!

Redmat · 06/09/2023 23:54

I'm so sorry for you. When I got to the stage you seem to be at I was taken into hospital to be given a rest and for them to try different treatments. I think I kind of spurred them on by fainting in the doctors waiting room!
Maybe try and see a private GP if you can afford it? I don't know if they would be able to get you admitted.
It's hard when you also have a child to consider.
Inflammatory bowel disease is horrendous .

YOOHOOHEYITSME · 07/09/2023 00:00

there is a thing called burnout physical and mental
your body just gives up or shuts down

i had a mental breakdown through extreme stress(new term for nervous breakdown)as i have 2 sons that has many complex rare disabilities each and im a lone parent-carer and i home educate so im on "call"24-7 as nether doesn't sleep

in winter 2020 their dad left the family for my ex best friend after 22 years of being together and we haven't seen him since
he was a secondary carer so shared the load.

overnight(he left for McDonalds at 3am and never came back)my life changed and i didn't see it coming so i was completely blindsided and dealing with the boys trauma

4 months later my brain snapped, i wasn't depressed didn't have anxiety it was all pure stress and trauma so i wasn't prescribed anything

i sorted it all out with herbal medication and online support groups as doctors wouldnt prescribe anything ,i had a diagnosis of a breakdown and sent on my way
i have no help from family or professionally im a 24/7 carer and educator and trying to recover at the same time

then April this year at 42 i was diagnosed ADHD type I
(attentive type)

i had all this without your physical problems(i do have severe PCOS though)

all i can advice is try and look after you self mentally even if its for 5 minutes here and there.
there's many asd support groups on Facebook, parents provide so much support and help

TheNightTroll · 07/09/2023 00:04

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