AIBU to get rid of this item?

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Lighthearted - yes I know it's AIBU!

DH bought me a gift for Christmas (or birthday maybe - it's around the same time) of a make your own neon sign kit. Apologies if this would be your dream present, but anyone who knows me knows that not only do I detest household tat in general, I especially dislike those signs and notices people have (like the word LOVE displayed in their kitchen, YGWIM).

So why would I want this? I am hoping it was a heavily reduced item bagged as a joke. I put it to one side to send to the charity shop (when I opened it, I certainly expressed my dismay) but he discovered this and said if I didn't want it, he was going to make it. You can make a blue flamingo or a word or something.

So he has got it out of the box and faffed about with it for a bit then left it on the front room floor. It's been there for ages. Well clearly as it's like about eight months since my birthday.

So my AIBU is - am I within my rights to bin it? He's never going to make it, and if he did, I really don't want it up anywhere. He has form for starting things and not finishing them btw. He also has form for poor presents (a sieve, car mats) - which doesn't really bother me tbh, but I don't usually have such a strong negative reaction (I use the sieve!) before anyone accuses me of being ungrateful. I'm just sick of seeing it lying there and having to hoover round it. AIBU?

It's been sat on the floor for 8 months of course you should get rid of it, he's had plenty of opportunity to make a sign if he wanted to.

I’d probably tell him first rather than just get rid. Tell him if it’s not done or gone by the weekend you’re binning it

Ask him?

I would mould it into a profanity … but I am
very childish

Eh... its your present.... you do what you like with it!
Maybe give him a list in future and if he deviates from it.... it goes straight in the bin!
Dk not give him 8 months grace.

It was your present, therefore, yours to do what you like with🤷‍♂️

I think I would probably just bag it up and hide it in my wardrobe for a while, then if he doesn't ask where it's gone, you can quietly bin it. On the other hand, if he asks where it is, tell him you've binned it, and see what his reaction is, if it's one of horror and dismay, go and get it and present it to him with the words, 'I was only joking, but it's either done by the end of the next 7 days, or it does go in the bin'. Hopefully that will focus his mind on how much he wants to keep it. As an aside OP, I wouldn't want it either, but each to their own I suppose.

secret santa it

haha thanks all.

Should say it has probs not been on the floor for eight months - but at least four I would say. I like the idea of secreting it away to see if he asks.

My thought was very much that it's my present. That's why I was annoyed when he said I shouldn't charity shop it. I can;t now obvs so that's even more annoying.

I'd definitely shift it off the livingroom floor, that would be driving me mad! But I wouldn't get rid of it just yet, id put it away somewhere. Then if he wants to commit to making it and putting it up somewhere, he can, if it hasnt been used or mentioned in a month or so, I'd give it to charity

I would freecycle it so that at least it just doesn’t end up in landfill. But yes, get rid!

I would also be annoyed at it now not being used properly as like you've said it could have gone to the charity shop and not gone to waste.

He obviously isn't interested in completing it so now not only can it not be given to charity you've had to see it sitting unused for the best part of the year.

I honestly wouldn't even bother hiding it away if 8 months isn't long enough for him to get round to it then all that will happen is he will notice it's gone, get it back out with the promise of doing it and you'll then spend another however many months getting more pissed off about it when it's inevitably left unfinished.

Yes I would definitely just get rid of it. Maybe you can freecycle it? Shame if it goes to landfill

Dh is a twat in neon may be cool....

hahaha it's a bit short for that tbh. That may be the issue - I think you'd struggle to write more than "fam" in it. Actually I might just do that to really annoy the family :)

Bin it, after three it's clear he's not going to make it and expects you to deal with clearing it away. If he wanted it he would either have finished it or cleared it away for next time. My DH used to do the vacuuming and would leave it in the middle of the room, lead pulled to full limit and plugged in because clearly it was my job to tidy up after/for him. Bin it so next time he knows to take better care of the things he leaves laying around on the floor for days!! Sadly (for him) I left him 12 years ago after spending 16 years being the butler, cleaner, housekeeper, nanny, chef and after I'd finished those duties and flopped into bed expected to be still available for "evening duties" smh then after a quick search I realised that every time my back was turned he was watching other men n women have sex on the net.....what a slap in the face that was so now he's gone back home because he STILL cannot do a damn thing for himself apart from......,