Worn down by online bullying

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I am part of a friendship group. My disability and getting benefits has been brought into discussion by a couple of members and there is a lot of resentment about the fact I don’t work and get financial help, they’ve been accusing me of faking it all. it’s been really stressful for me but I’ve just put it down to the fact they don’t really understand what it’s like. Can’t be bothered to get into a debate about it.
but it has escalated to outright bullying me , saying I have no IQ and am stupid and can’t think and other things along those lines. It’s on a group chat.
it didn't really matter but it has now escalated to shit stirring and getting my personal information in sneaky ways by pretending to be someone else for example. It has just gotten out of hand.
they are friends with my friends and I have actually been tearing my head out from the stress and am considering just dropping my own friends too, who I know in real life, although I have never met the bullies in real life as they are in the Netherlands. even though they are supportive of me in private and don’t agree, they are choosing to be friends with someone like that
I have really had enough.
or I don’t know wether I should be taking photos of it and using it against them, or if it won’t matter because they are online

Doesn't sound like much of a friendship group and that you wouldn't be missing much if you were to leave?

What sort of online friendship group is it?

I would leave the group and drop the friends

Wow, drop the online friends, they are not friends. Either talk to a trusted real life friend or take a break from real life friends if you need to . Madness, why conti ue talking to people who make you feel bad ?

Take some screenshots for your own sanity in case anyone ever doesn’t believe you about what happened but then park them in a folder and forget about them. Then leave the group. There are nicer friendships out there to be made.

They're not your friends! Leave the group.

Its on-line, you don't have to go there. I know if this is a group you spend a lot of time on, then you will feel a bit at a loss if you stop visiting it, but honestly, I can't see why on earth you would keep joining the group.

Just leave. If any of your friends are real friends, they will soon notice you have stopped messaging and will find other ways to contact you and check on you.

I am sorry for what you are experiencing, but the solution is at your own fingertips.

I think maybe your best course of action would be to leave the online group. If they're in the Netherlands then hopefully they will quickly lose interest in you (out of sight out of mind).

Just leave.

I was in a group with similar benefits bashing. I'm a single parent who works full time. I get £11 a week in child tax credit and child benefit which gets used on the day to day expenses of raising children. Two of the ladies in the group are married to husbands who earn a very high salary, so they don't get child benefit or child tax credit.

Every time I mentioned buying something or days out or going on holiday - that kind of thing, up they popped commenting how it must be nice having their husbands tax paying for my luxuries.

I've also got health issues and every time I mentioned going to the GP or hospital, up they popped saying how grateful they were having private health cover through their husbands jobs so they didn't need to use the NHS.

They just got right on my tits, so I left the group and found another one without judgey women in.

Bin it off. Who needs that

If your friends are not putting a stop to this, they’re not friends. Bin the lot of them, it’s not worth the stress.

Delete and block

It’s online. You don’t know them, just exit the group, delete, block. You don’t need to stay involved.

It's on-Line . Just switch it off .

I think the real question is why have you allowed this group to bash you, insult you, and target you? You have agency in this situation and should be using it.

You’re not forced into interacting with them in any way (not in schoolyard, working in a job together, or anything that is a requirement).

What will continuing to engage with them for pictures or any other reason bring to the party?