To worry about nursery choice

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We booked our DS into nursery not long after birth and plan him to start at 8 months, four days a week. I'd love it to be less days but we've done sums and with cost of living, rising mortgage etc we can't afford a pay cut and to cover everything else.

We looked at a couple of options. One was the posher, expensive one in the area and it was nice but a bit out of the way and seemed a bit too tidy/ formal when we went there. Second one was closer and in town. A bit less tidy but got a nice friendly vibe. My neighbour's girl also went there and enjoyed it so we decided to sign up.

Was in a mother and baby group this week and a mother who I'd only just met that day mentioned her neighbour had to remove her child from this nursery and she'd only recommend the out of town nursery. She didn't seem to know specifics but now I'm terrified I made the wrong choice. It's probably too late to organise elsewhere and I'm not sure one strangers anecdote should prompt an entire change of nursery.

Get in touch with the nursery and do a visit with the baby room full so you can see what it’s like?

Don't panic. The nursery might just have not been right for that particular child. Children move for a number of reasons. You got a positive vibe when you visited so they must be doing something right for you to feel that way. I would visit again and hopefully this will put your mind at rest. You will know how good they are by how happy your child is when they start. It's really hard choosing because you just want your child to be happy. If it doesn't work for you or them then you can look for another one. I hope everything works out for you.

On the basis of a woman who you've only just met mentioning that her neighbour removed her child from the nursery, you would write it off? When you've been there yourself to assess it and you liked the vibe? What would you do if you switched and then your plumber casually mentions one day that his sister-in-law once used the out of town nursery and she doesn't rate it at all, wouldn't send her dog there. People will all have their own opinions and experiences. If it's backed up with actual detail - someone tells you they removed their chid because of XYZ incident, which is something you feel strongly about, then that's different.

Yes I think IBU and giving someones opinión too much attention but I just want the best for DS. I was already so worried about putting him in nursery and now I'm freaking out it could be the wrong choice

Ask if you can go and have another look around. Then trust your gut instinct.

We chose a “good” nursery in a not so nice area over an “outstanding” one in a much pricier area as the Good one just felt right for DD and we had no regrets. But everyone has a different view in what is good.

Not just 'someone else's' opinion but a strangers neighbour's opinion!

Be confident in your own choice and safe in the knowledge that no decision we make is permanent and if it is the wrong choice then you can move him.