To think nursery are playing it down

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Mojitooo · 05/09/2023 23:48

My DD age 3 has been involved in a few accidents at nursery. Some have left her with marks/grazes. Her nursery do inform me of these accidents but say she has fell or tripped over in the outdoor area. However, when we get home she tells me another child has pushed her over, which has caused the marks. Twice since I have gone to collect her and seen her be shoved by the child in the play area, the same one who she told me about when the other accidents happened. One time was a pretty bad one where he shoved her hard and she fell onto her knees on the concrete. Another time I went to pick her up and she was in floods of tears. nursery told me she had sat down and banged her back on the book case but when we got the car she said the same child had pushed her into it and she had a big mark on her back from it.

when I saw her being pushed I was walking up the ramp into nursery as it happened. Nursery told the child to say sorry and apologised to me also but that was it. I have also seen the same child throwing toys are other children’s faces when there to collect my DD. Aibu to think they are playing it down by saying she has tripped over something etc.

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Mumof2teens79 · 06/09/2023 00:32

Yes, they are playing it down
While they have a duty of care to your DD they also have one to the other 3 Yr old, and he has a right to privacy. So they are trying to be discrete.

This doesn't mean they are handling it badly..the children are just 3.

Waynettaaa · 06/09/2023 00:50

Mumof2teens79 · 06/09/2023 00:32

Yes, they are playing it down
While they have a duty of care to your DD they also have one to the other 3 Yr old, and he has a right to privacy. So they are trying to be discrete.

This doesn't mean they are handling it badly..the children are just 3.

They still have to explain exactly what has happened and it should be in writing and the OP should be reading and signing this. The should say there was an incident with another child, but they're not allowed to name them.

@Mojitooo have they given you a written explanation to read and sign?! I'd be asking for a meeting to discuss things.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 06/09/2023 01:09

Mumof2teens79 · 06/09/2023 00:32

Yes, they are playing it down
While they have a duty of care to your DD they also have one to the other 3 Yr old, and he has a right to privacy. So they are trying to be discrete.

This doesn't mean they are handling it badly..the children are just 3.

Doesn't mean they can lie!

"We are having an issue with behaviour from a fellow pupil, and your dd seems to have been bearing the brunt of it. Rest assured we are working with the child and the family, and are making sure the two are closely supervised if playing near one another"

Not "whoops she fell against a bookcase"

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