To ask for your stories about not responding and maintaining a dignified silence.

[girlfriend44]

Usually when theres a row with friends/family messages go backwards and forwards, everyone believes they are right and tries to have the last word.
They say that silence is powerful and the best response.

Can I hear your stories of this where nobody has said anything after a fall out, no messaging, no blocking, no replies etc. Have you maintained a dignified silence after a bust up or disagreement?

whats your experience, is it still ongoing?

silence in the face of provocation works spectacularly with my pompous abusive ex...it takes the wind completely out of his over-puffed sails, as even he can't pick a fight with himself 😂

I wish I could master this art. Instead I maintain a dignified silence for a while then crack and send a response so my dignified silence becomes a long period of time where it is obvious I am obsessing about it

I wish I could master this art. Instead I maintain a dignified silence for a while then crack and send a response so my dignified silence becomes a long period of time where it is obvious I am obsessing about it

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That made me laugh far more than it should have. 😂

Oh I hear that!! I love a good rant - but what I do now (mostly) is write emails and texts of what I really really want to say - get it all out - but dont send it. Absolute gamechanger. Its sooooo therapeutic and they never get the satisfaction of knowing how much they upset you. I either send nothing or just an annoying 'ok' or 'righto'. Sends nasty twats into a spin I find. My 'drafts' folder in my email box is absolutely full of crazy rage emails that make me look like a right nutter😂

Shitty letter from an in-law. Left us both flabbergasted. Didn't/couldn't respond so the long silence started.

Shitty letters from a relative to a parent. Flabbergasted. Supported parent. Ignored the shitty letter writer. It's been decades now.

LC with a relative. Spare me the gushing, oversharing, I'm great and everything I do is just fantastic.

It's hard at first but in the end I've found it's the best thing to do. You don't give anyone any ammunition and you can remove yourself from a toxic situation and never have to worry about whether or not you should have said 'that'. Much easier to move on if you don't add to a bad situation.

Don't bother not replying ime. I've been through 2.5 years of not responding, changing things to make it harder for them to be awkward and not saying anything.
Only encouraged them to continue and think of more to do. When I've finally put my foot down they're now claiming victim status.