Look like I‘ve lied but I really haven’t!

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Pantsarentonfire · 05/09/2023 12:09

Missed something key at work yesterday through the most ridiculous sounding and unlikely tech error. I didn’t find out I’d missed it at all, until the issue resolved itself today and I spotted the request in the system. My manager is really annoyed and wants a chat later today.

I explained the situation and 100% he doesn’t believe me. I don’t blame him. It sounds like the grown-up version of “the dog ate my homework” and I just couldn’t be bothered to do it.

Lost sleep over it last night and am super stressed about the chat later today.

I’m worried but I’m also very saddened that in the 10 years of working for him, he hasn’t built enough of a view of me to know I’m not a liar or skiver.

In the absence of being able to prove it, how do I stand my ground without making the situation worse? I really don’t want to be apologising and falling on my sword for something that I had no control over. I’m trying to remind myself that I’m an 40 something woman and not a child though, and I’d like to approach the conversation accordingly.

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slobro · 05/09/2023 17:40

Serendipitoushedgehog · 05/09/2023 16:15

He angrily messaged me last night

It’s such a horrible power move to message employees at night for no other reason to basically tell them your annoyed with them and want to talk about it in the morning.

I think you should just be honest: this is what happened, you’ve said sorry, you don’t know what else you can say. You’ve worked there for ten years.

100% this. And you've been there for ten years, his initial thoughts should be to speak to you and find out your side of it when you're both back in the office. He cannot be texting you out of hours.

Pigeon31 · 05/09/2023 17:45

I'd start looking for another job or another role in the same org - your manager sounds like an idiot.

Human beings sometimes make human mistakes. By all means you sit down with your boss and explain why it happened, to help them think about if they can improve the process, but there's no reason to treat a valued and reliable worker like trash over it.

Escalateandcreate · 05/09/2023 17:52

Systems and computers do break down all the time. Remember thousands of passengers being stuck abroad after the UK flight system broke down 10 days ago.

SmudgeButt · 05/09/2023 17:56

Systems do wonky things occasionally. So do our eyes. The number of times I can't see something and then there it is. Like a man standing in front of a fridge not being able to see the bottle of milk on the middle of the shelf in front of him!!!

As for the phone call at night.....work was surprised that having given me an iphone that I found away to have it automatically go silent from 6 pm to 9 am and all weekend long. Not in a pissed off kind of surprise, more a "oh how can I do that?" kinda way.

TheWayofBeing · 05/09/2023 21:10

Quitelikeit · 05/09/2023 13:43

Seems odd that your system is broken at work?

computers and systems don’t lie and if they do then you need to get IT in to see what happened

Computers fuck up all the time. Mines started deleting lines of text when I hit send so requests/filings are nonsensical when they reach my boss.

You'd be surprised what computers glitch about.

IpsyUpsyDaisyDoos · 06/09/2023 18:56

Quitelikeit · 05/09/2023 13:43

Seems odd that your system is broken at work?

computers and systems don’t lie and if they do then you need to get IT in to see what happened

😂😂😂

They don't lie, but they DO break and glitch. I literally make my living off this fact, finding, investigating and implementing fixes for IT syst issues.

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