He’s an absolute bellend

[Ilovepugs2017]

Oldest DS dad who he sees rarely - half of the year for 1 night a week.

His dads gf texted me recently saying they are splitting up, he’s a liar and another million things.

She then rung me and my son overheard the conversation and asked what was going on.

He then texted me the day after asking if I knew of any places to rent and said they were splitting up etc. I said our son was asking what was going on and what should I tell him? He said tell him it’s over. I then said are you sure it’s over and you’re not going to try sorting things out because I don’t want it to be confusing for him. He said yes 100% over. I’m looking for somewhere else to live.

Hes due to have our son Friday and has texted to say his gf will be there and they are trying to work things out now, AIBU for wanting some stability in my sons life instead of him being stuck in the middle of this between two grown adults who can’t seem to decide what the hell they are doing?

You can't force your ex to stay with his gf.
You can't hide their break up from your son. You can't control your ex's conduct.

No, you're not unreasonable to want stability for your son, but seeing as his dad can't provide that, you'll have to be the stability yourself. Just do what you can to provide a secure environment when he's with you.

Why is she ringing you? I would stay out of it tbh

Why are they turning to you for any of this?
The girlfriend can tell her friends all about what an ass the exhusband is, not you.
And the ex husband can tell his own son about his own relationships and find his own apartment HIMSELF.
Stop doing things for people, please! None of these are your responsibilities AT ALL.

You need to stay out of it more.

Tell your son you don't know what is happening and you know it's confusing but you'll always be there to help him.

You can't change your ex. You can't make him behave sensibly. You can't stop it upsetting your son. What you can do is be reliable, safe and supportive yourself.