I've NCed for this.
DS is 21 and finished uni a few months ago. He has a bf and he's been with him for a year, he's 19. I get along with him. He's NC with his family which isn't any of my business and was staying with a friend. DS came back to live here and asked if he can live with us. I agreed and so did DP although he was a little unsure about them sharing a room which was strange as they're both adults.
BF works and DS doesn't as he is struggling with his mental health and attempted suicide not to long ago. BF gives me money for rent but I save it for them both.
We have some house rules and they're usually good with them but occasionally don't follow them. For example, we have a rule about cleaning up after themselves and BF has broken it 3 times. The first time we got back earlier than planned and he was very apologetic, the 2nd time he said he forgot and the 3rd time was tonight. Me and DP went out and when we came back the kitchen was left in a mess which was left from cooking and they hadn't washed up. DP is much more strict than I am and was unhappy, I calmly spoke to them both and BF said it was his fault and DS told me he wanted BF to watch a film with him and told him the mess would be fine.
DP told BF to leave as it was his third ‘strike’ and he didn't care about DS’s excuse for him. DS was upset and told me to not make him leave so I told DP to leave instead.
He's gone to his brothers but will be back as the house isn't just in my name. I've since had messages off of him calling me soft and saying DS is spoilt.
was I unreasonable?