I’m just not into him

[Champgal]

I married my partner of 5 years and I love him to bits. We adventure, we have great hobbies, a great life together, probably better then most. I’m just not attracted to him. Not all the time, sometimes I can be, but 80% of the time it’s a no. And sex turns me off, and I do it to get it out the way. I want to get the spark back but don’t know how as every other part is a 10/10. Anyone have the same???

You say you want to get the spark back. Was it really ever there?

It's sounds more like a companionship

Generally speaking I think once you stop fancying someone, it's impossible to get that back.

However, let's talk about that 20%. Can you pin point what's different about those times where you are attracted to him? Or what it is about the 80% of the time that puts you off?

You say that sex turns you off. Is it him you're not attracted to, or do you just have a very low libido at the moment?

It makes me sad to read you're having sex just to get it out the way. Please don't. I've been there and it quickly starts to really affect your mental wellbeing.