My sisters have changed

[Mumoneboy]

Hi

To briefly explain my situation. I'm a mum of two and I have one older sister and one younger sister. Both of whom finding have any children. We have always had a very close relationship. Close that we would always be there for each other but not so close that we saw each other all the time. We would communicate now and then with each other but generally as family including two brothers we are close when we get together etc. my older sister in particular when I had kids (she can't have them) we got super close and we would both FT each other regularly to chat etc.

Anyway towards the end of the last year my younger sister broke up with her BF and she ended moving in with my older sister. Since that happened they have gotten super close to the point where I feel left out. They naturally hung out together more of course because they lived together so I never expected them to involved me always especially as I live an about away. But the calls with my older sisters stopped and they started planning long trips together. I should mention too my older sister isn't going through a good time in her marriage so I think they've both come to lean on each other but by doing so they've excluded me. They went to ibiza together and they didn't really ask me. They went dress shopping together for my brothers wedding and again didn't ask me. In the end I told them how I felt and they acknowledge and apologised and they said they didn't mean to do leave me out. But things haven't changed. After that asked them if they wanted to do something together and they said yeah let's a get a date in. I asked them both to send me dates and no answer. So when they went to ibiza together recently and I saw their pictures etc it's really upset me. So I told them again that I was upset and that they don't really ask me to do things etc etc. this time they were t as understanding and if anything were annoyed at me for confronting them again. But they just don't seem to understand how I'm feeling. I'm feel really isolated and it's niche they have each other to lean on but it would be nice for me to lean on them too.

I don't know what to do anymore. Should k distance myself and am I right to feel this way?

Hi there, no help on offer, really sorry for that. I can only imagine how low this must make you feel. Perhaps my reply gives your post a bump and you will receive some good advice on here.
Best of luck!

Could you have gone to Ibiza? I do understand how you feel but practically if you live an hour away and they live together, you have children and they don't, they have more time and spontaneity to be able to do things. Your life is different and that's fine. Your brother isn't doing these things either. Your lives are just in different places, and living together inevitably they're closer. A different relationship doesn't have to be a lesser one. Why don't you come up with something to do and invite them

@Victoriavictoryvince thank you for your message. Although you didn't have the answer your message was super sweet 😊

@UndercoverCop unfortunately not because I'm breastfeeding and again although I knew they were going I had accepted it. Because why should they stop their lives because I have kids. It's more the fact that they didn't consider me initially. I should also point out the dynamic of our sisterly relationship only changed once they lived together. Me having children didn't affect our relationship even though i was limited to what I could do, we made it work because they would consider me. I.e I would suggest something they would agree etc. but since they lived together now they are too busy to hang out that's what they said. They have a lot going on. But they hang out with each other numerous times? They said that they are happy to do things separately with me and I just need to say something. When my older sister said this I told her about suggesting going somewhere and asked them to send me dates but they didn't . My older sister and I particularly grew more closer if anything after I had children. She and I call each other constantly. And again this rapidly lessened once my sisters lived together. My older sister is going through martial problems and my younger sister is still being affected by her break up but I just feel so isolated. I actually spoke to my sister yesterday (we were out on a hen and also my first night away in 8 months) she said she was upset of how I said what I said and I apologised for this because i did come across harsh but I tried to explain that I was frustrated by their actions and their responses were patronising especially my older sisters. But although I saw them yesterday it was so weird they were constantly going off together and sitting together and I just wasn't part of it. And again they just don't see an issue with this. I just don't know what to do. I ft my older sister today and the other day and no answer. I'm just lost. My husband thinks I should leave it and let it be and act normal and give them time to get out of the rut that their both in. But in the mean time it's unfair that I'm the one that's suffering from this. They will see each other where as I won't most likely. Because I can't see them reaching out to me.