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To not respond to this man?

19 replies

marthadumptru · 03/09/2023 15:20

I met a guy OLD, met 6 times. He was okay I guess. Very attracted to him physically but personality wise...well he didn't ask me one question. Dates were always on his terms and he says the right things but his actions didn't line up with what he was saying. When he shows you who he is listen and all that...

Last time I seen him was two and a half weeks ago where we had sex. He text me for a couple of days afterwards. He then asked if he could come over one night after work, he said this would be around 11 pm, I said too late sorry no. All fine.

The next night after that he started a conversation with me via text, I replied asking him a question and there was no reply. That was around a week and a half ago.

All good, I didn't give it much thought as as I said his actions weren't matching his words so just assumed it was one of those things that come to nothing as is sometimes the case with OLD.

This morning I wake up to a message from him at 4 am 'I miss you'. I chuckle to myself a bit as he was obviously drunk and changing his luck and the thought that he'd think 'I miss you' when he doesn't know me and hasn't been in touch, would do the trick, well I just found it funny. Anyways no need to reply to that. I go about my day.

I have just received a text from him saying, 'thanks for the reply, I guess you don't feel the same way 😢'. I mean honestly 😂😂 so I'm between sending him back a witty response (would need help with this) or just completely ignoring him. I have no desire to see him again, even for a quick shag.

What should I do then Mumsnet?

I'm 31, He's 34 if makes a difference.

OP posts:
Comedycook · 03/09/2023 15:21

He just wants sex.

Message him back "who dis?"

kiptee · 03/09/2023 15:22

Red flag right there
Very needy
Block and move on

Autumntimeagain · 03/09/2023 15:27

I'd reply 'Well, on the bright side, it looks like your psychic powers are working fine' 😂

Comedycook · 03/09/2023 15:27

In all seriousness...I'd just ignore

marthadumptru · 03/09/2023 16:17

Hahah who dis? 😂

OP posts:
Berlinlover · 03/09/2023 16:24

I’d just ignore him.

Tiredmum100 · 03/09/2023 16:29

I'd ignore him too, sounds like he's way too much like hard work. He's after a shag and obviously, every woman will drop the knickers at "I miss you." I remember this one bloke I had a fling with was very much- "Let's not get too involved. You'll end up falling in love with me" type. It was so funny as he actually gave me the ick. I ghosted him in the end as he kept ringing when I said I wasn't interested.

JMSA · 03/09/2023 16:30

Grow up, would be my response.

What a twat.

SlippinJanie · 03/09/2023 16:33

Perfect, yes: Grow up.

Shows what you think of his pathetic passive aggressive whine "thanks for the reply" - what a git.

WhineWhineWhineWINE · 03/09/2023 16:34

Ignore - it'll bother him much more than any witty response to know you don't even think he's worth a reply.

Toenailz · 03/09/2023 16:37

I wouldn't know what to say to that either. So that's probably what I'd reply. "I have no idea what to say to that.'

Legocrayola · 03/09/2023 16:40

Did he ever actually answer your question? Tell him you're still waiting on him responding to that.

Or just block him.

Testina · 03/09/2023 16:43

So you had 5 crap dates then had sex anyway?
Was the sex worth it?
Just block him.
And don’t waste 4 more dates on a sub par after the first 2. I’m being generous there in case of first date nerves.

maddening · 03/09/2023 16:43

Possibly reply with a gif - like lucky swerve or something

Lampan · 03/09/2023 16:44

Does he think you are stupid? That you’ll be swayed by an insincere and clearly untrue ‘I miss you’?
You are quite right - his actions don’t match his words. Either ignore, or reply to shut it down and tell him you moved on when you didn’t hear from him. Either way, don’t see or contact him again.

Hooplahooping · 03/09/2023 16:51

I like my booty calls more direct, and my friends more considerate of my sleep time. xx

done.

LuluBlakey1 · 29/09/2023 17:00

Does it matter? Better know what he's like now than after any deeper friendship/possible relationship. Let it go- don't give him another thought.

Lighteningstrikes · 23/02/2024 20:38

10 days too late mate.
Then block.

ItsADoggieDogWorld · 23/02/2024 20:42

Lighteningstrikes · 23/02/2024 20:38

10 days too late mate.
Then block.

Think you might be the late one, this thread is over four months old.

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