Sister inlaw getting involed in my divorce

[Lucy202]

Shes not his sister, shes his brothers wife & she keeps txting my 10 year old daughter getting involved basically wanting to know the gossip. Ive tired to speak to my soon to be ex husband & he doesnt see what shes doing, but i know her & seen how she has behaved with other family issues which is to get the juicy gossip. We live 200 miles away so she doesnt get to see but im furious shes asking my daughter questions about me like who i am on the phone to & what do i talk about to my friends with.
Im not the connected one to them, this is my husbands side so im the one shrouded with mistery they dont know whats going on with me & shes just trying to get the dirt. From my 10 year old daughter. What do you think?

Block her number on your daughters phone.

No need to discuss it with anybody

I would block her number on your daughter's 'phone.

I'd text her back quoting her questions and telling her it's inappropriate for her to be texting your DD about your personal life, and if she wants to know anything she can ask you personally. She will almost certainly publicise your response so keep it civil and make sure her original questions are quoted in your reply so there's not misunderstandings.

What for?

Block and ignore. Don't even bother telling her why.

Block her from your child's phone. You may want to rethink allowing a 10 year old to have their own phone in the first place, or at the bare minimum have parental controls on the phone that sent their texts to your phone so you know what's going on.

Agree with everyone, block her from daughters phone

she shouldn't be harassing a child, so you need to block her

You can block her phone and I’d tell her not to contact her - it’s inappropriate.

I do have parental controls on her phone.

I just wasnt sure if im over reacting but i can't believe that she is asking about my privet life.

Hello OP, your (soon-to-be) exSIL has really stepped over a line here. As I read it, this woman has contacted her 10 year old niece to solicit private information regarding yourself and your relationships with others. The deceitful, cheeky low class bitch. How dare she manipulate and harass a child like that!

FWIW, I’d do the following:

1. Immediately block her on your daughter’s phone, obvs.

2. Reassure your daughter that she hasn’t done nothing wrong and explain that her aunt’s behaviour is thoroughly unacceptable and she (your daughter) should never have been approach like this by an adult family member whom she should have been able to trust.

3. I’d then go a bit nuclear. I’d then send an email to your SIL* to let her know that you’re aware of her messages to your 10 year old daughter (with screenshots from your daughter’s phone) and please can she explain such behaviour? Because of course there must be a reason for a grown woman to stoop so low, no?

I would, of course cc everyone* in your stbexH’s family (incl your stbexH and PIL) into said email. Your SIL should of course die of shame on the spot and have a bit of explaining to do for herself her husband and his family (assuming no other member of your exH’s family had anything to do with these messages she sent your daughter).

Sorry, that was meant to read:

“have a bit of explaining to do for herself to her husband and his family”