Got my own place but my parents don’t know

[Evieanne]

How should I tell my family? They don’t know yet. I’m so scared of their reaction. As you’ll know by my previous posts. I can’t do this, I can’t deal with the confrontation. They don’t like my friend because she’s my ex and she’s the one they objected to me seeing often. I am not sure what to do. I so badly want to go to my new place but I feel so guilty, they’ll overreact I know they will.

How old are you? Do you live with them at the moment?

Well done for getting your own place.

Just leave. Tell them afterwards. Once you've gone you never have to see them again.

There's obviously more to this, I have no idea about your previous posts

I don't know about your past, but I would move all your stuff you can.

Just move out. Is it far from them? Do you have to stay in contact?

I’m 21, and yeah I live with them, I had to do it behind their back because if they don’t approve they’ll assume it doesn’t happen and they support me with so much so I feel guilty. I just wanted my own place with floating support so I can do things on my own terms and live my life.

Well done Evieanne. I did read your previous posts, and I am glad for you that are making progress.
Can you move by stealth? Take what you need in stages, then move yourself and call them when it’s done? Or even leave a note if that is easier.
They have not been kind to you so you do not owe them more. Good luck with this brave move.

It’s 27 minutes away from my parents in a different area.

Just move out, you're hardly being held hostage.

It's like pulling a plaster off. You just do it, and it's never as bad as you fear it will be.

You could wait until everyone is out, and then leave a letter on the table where your parents will find it. You don't have to go into the tiny details of who you are living with, you can just say, I have moved out into my own place, I am absolutely fine, etc etc and I will phone you on Thursday.

Dont tell them just act normal and leave you have your own home now your free .
Think of not walking on egg shells bliss .
If they ask why your taking stuff out just say your de cluttering .

I did this at 18 op. Felt suffocated at home with all the rules and limitations. I'm not talking like be home by 12 type rules. I mean like you can't go out and see x. You can't see your bf. You can't talk to your friends on the phone. If I was allowed to see a friend, they'd drive past and I'd have to go to the window to show I was there.

It was hard, they hit the roof, called the police saying I'd been kidnapped. Honestly still the best thing I could have done for myself at the time.

Just do it, it's the start of your life.