I'm aware there is a similar thread but I'm having slightly different problems so just wanted some help or advice.
I feel completely done. I have a 3 year old who I strongly suspect has either autism or global delay. He is non verbal and will sometimes lash out although he doesn't really tend to do that at nursery. He doesn't always eat much but recently I have seen him trying to eat the contents of his nappy, coins and he bites things. I've lost count of the number of non bite cups he's bitten through and he'll often bite or lick furniture or windows.
He's recently begun pinching, despite being told no and shown kind hands. I don't think he understands.
He doesn't really attempt to socialize or engage at nursery. He might pick up a dinosaur and sit with it but he doesn't actively play with it. He has two plastic giraffes that go everywhere with him and he gets very distressed if he can't find them. (For example if he puts them down at nursery and a staff member puts them in his bag when he realizes they are gone he gets very upset). Nursery keep telling me they are putting things in place for him but I can't see any evidence of this.
Since May I have been working in the same room he's in but I'm moving rooms on Monday and apprehensive about how he'll cope.
My DD2 is autistic but is high functioning but she still requires support, especially in the holidays and she sometimes talks about how much easier it would be if she was dead.
My eldest is who I feel so awful for. So much energy goes on my two youngest that I feel she barely gets anything from me. I try to spend time with her every day but so often it gets interpreted.
I work 35 hours a week but with my children it's crippling me. DH and I have talked lots but he won't let me cut down my hours so that's it.
Work is the least of my worries though. I really need to hear from people who have a child with SEN and one who is NT? How do you make time for them?
I guess I'm lucky in a way that she's 17 so she understands but I still fear like she doesn't get enough of my time or energy. Do others manage it? Time with each child, but especially one who is sidelined by her siblings ?