Best friend not being supportive?

[Letsnotupsettheapplcart]

AIBU?
Background…… my best friend and I have been just that for around 10 years. I am fortunate enough not to work and she works full time. I therefore have helped her out with pick up and drop off weekly since her DS (now at high school) was 4. I continue to do this for her DD who is still at primary with my children - not every day but once a week. I am happy to do this and love her children dearly. I also help her out with babysitting regularly. I feel like I do a lot for her but I appreciate I have more time than she does so more than happy to do so

I have recently completed an outdoor swimming challenge that was way out of my comfort zone for a charity close to my heart. I worked really hard and found it incredibly difficult. I raised a lot of money and received a lot of supportive messages from friends, acquaintances and family. BUT, she has not sponsored me and, more importantly, said well done on my achievement. As I write this I am wondering if I am being over sensitive to this but I can’t help being upset by it. I know that there are no money concerns and as I said, it’s the lack of acknowledgment from someone close to me that has upset me most. I know if it were the other way round she would be upset.

So AIBU in being upset about this? Should I just leave it or is there anyway I can tackle this without causing an upset?

thank you….and please be kind

I think you're being a bit oversensitive but congratulations on your achievement.

I think she’s stopped appreciating your help! Think about it, has she said thank you for collecting her children? Does you get you some flowers or wine to show appreciation? I wonder if this is one sided.

Is it possible she has sponsorship fatigue? Sometimes it seems like everyone you know is doing something and endlessly asking for money and you get fed up with donating to this and that. Your achievement means a lot to you (and well done for doing it) but it might not mean much to her, especially if she doesn't do anything similar herself? Or has she supported you in the past but can't afford it now?

Have you slipped from friend to staff op?

If she's super busy with work and kids she might have just missed your message requesting it or sponsoring you has been on your to do list.

If you're that close friends next time you see her say 'oi you where's my sponsorship!'

I absolutely agree that sponsorship fatigue is real! hence I have not overly shared and gone on about it……but she knows about it. Tbh, a message or phone call saying ‘well done’ would’ve been more than enough. She definitely knows how much this means to me. And I have never done a sponsored event before.

Yes, that is a bit crap of her, there's not any excuse for not even sending you a supportive text. I'd personally be wondering if I only exist in her world for her benefit but you know her best obviously.
Congratulations 🎉 though well done for your big achievement.