NC for this
DD is going into year 2 at a small, one-form entry school. Since reception she’s been particularly friendly with one girl, let’s call her Hannah, although according to DD and school she does play fine with everyone.
There is a bit of a “mummy mafia” at our school that I’m not part of. Unfortunately Hannah’s mum has become best friends with the ringleader. Since this happened she’s wanted nothing to do with me. That’s fine for me, but DD has noticed we no longer have play dates with Hannah. I also know that group of mums keep arranging play dates and weekends away that DD isn’t invited to. Again their choice but it feels a bit sad that she’s the only one from their little group who is left out.
Anyway today DD told me at a party that Hannah said her parents had told her “why do you want play with that DD, she’s stupid, keep away from her” Now of course I’ve no idea what was actually said by Hannah or her parents but I’m not really sure how to handle this. I’m a believer in no smoke without fire and much as I can ignore the play dates part, if this kind of thing is being said, this is how bullying starts. But I feel really stuck - can’t confront the parents as they’ll deny it and accuse me of causing trouble, can’t really say anything to school because it’s not on their watch and they can’t police parents behaviour.
Just worried the ostracisation and comments will continue and actually perhaps she’d be better off somewhere else where people aren’t so bloody nasty!