do not want to drip feed - so may be a long post.
DSC has lived with me, his dad and my DC for most of his life ( early primary school aged )
DSC is autistic with additional care needs and non verbal.
his mum used to see them sporadically with supervised access only allowed - although this was often cancelled.
DCS is to legally stay in my care and has a little sibling on the way.
he has been emotionally effected of course by the huge changes recently and we have tried to make it as stable as possible.
we keep getting taking back to court and each time the it stays the same.
at the moment there is 3 contacts a month but it ends up being 1 time max due to travelling issues. ( from mums side not mine ) I have stuck to my end of the agreement.
now the legal agreement between DP and her for Xmas was that he was with us Xmas day and he travelled down Boxing Day to drop of for supervised contact.
this agreement has been suspended for obvious reason and something that has not come up in new agreement is special occasions.
she is now requesting - that she could have him for Xmas eve - 27th of December supervised by family. I am torn by this hugely it is not in any written agreement but of course she is their mum. She will take us back to court if I say no she has made that clear- my issue is that DSC is so unsettled at the moment that the only way I have been able to handle things is to keep some sort of normal where I can. They have never spent that length of time away from us and never been away for Christmas Day.
do I await a court ruling or do we try to settle this ourselves? I am worried that the change of routine will trigger them and I will be hours away so couldn’t get there quickly to collect them.
i do however know this can been seen as well you are only step mum and that’s real family.