Best friend ghosted me

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both myself and my old best friend have young children however recently on our last visit I mentioned getting a new job and barely being able to afford childcare on my salary.

i accident mentioned my old salary which I didn’t think much off but my friend is a stay at home mum and worry it my have rubbed her the wrong way. She’s now dismissive/ vague of making new plans and has stopped interacting online (we’d previously often like each others pictures and stories)

I feel very sad as I don’t really have many friends mainly because I never really have time to see them especially ones without kids my DH often works overtime and weekends so if im not working im guaranteed to have my DC.

I'm starting to feel a bit isolated although I know it’s my own doing.

How was the friendship before you mentioned your new job? Did she know you had applied?

If she's that upset she could just get a job

@NWQM we had quite a good friendship but we didn’t really talk about work. She probably didn’t realize that I’m a relatively high earner especially as we went to college together

usually we’d talk about children or family drama both our families have their fair share of drama and people with addictions so before it was always very relatable.

You’re allowed to be proud of your achievements. Friends are supposed to celebrate each other not knock each other down. My friend earns twice as much as I do and I’m so proud of her. She’s earned it, as did you!

@BigOldBlue1 not really that’s what we were discussing I basically said something like it’s barely worth working unless you’re earning over 28K as with the cost of childcare much less and you’re paying to go to work

What are you thinking that she's thinking? I don't really understand what mental gymnastics are required to turn a passing comment about your salary into some affront to your friend.

That’s weird, why would she ghost you over you having a good well paying job?! Was nothing else said during the visit that could have upset her?

I don’t think she ghosted you over that . Is she really your best friend ? If she is why not be direct with her … are you implying she is envious of you as you are in your words a high earner ? How does your friend make you feel about yourself .. I sense some mutual envy

Did you tell her the exact salary or that you have moved from earning over £28k to under £28k.

I really don’t understand why she would be upset to learn how much you used to earn. Unless you owe her a lot of money which you have pleaded poverty over and you let it slip you used to earn £100k?