To not have phoned my mother yet today ?

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My mum has really stressed me out for many years.
She lives 6 houses away and is only home from her travels (sailing around med ) about 4 months a year.
She will do anything for dd1 15years.
hasnt been to see us in 3 years as too busy. Never calls in or offers any help but will willingly drop everything for one of her 2 friends she loves to impress. She knows we struggle big time with juggling work and home but has never once offerred to help-in fact last week she didnt even bother asking how the children were when they had to have theyre pony put to sleep.She said we shoudnt have had one in the first place !
Bit the bullet and offerred to take them both out to dinner last week but she said she was too busy prEparing for her scrabble competition.
lots lots more beside.
ANyhow- i really really feel let down by my mum and for lots more reasons than this-i really dont feel like walking up again this year with her card only To be told how much nicer my brothers card is ect.(HE STILL LIVES AT HOME IS 34 AND HAS EVERYTHING DONE FOR HIM-OBVIUOSLY THE GOLDEN BOY WITH very IMPORTANT JOB NEVER MIND ME DOING MY NURSING AND THEN MY MIDWIFERY WITH 3 CHILDREN AND NO FAMILY HELP WHAT SO EVER )
I feel like such a hypocrite when really i should be sending her a card which reads DO YOU REALISE WHAT 3 WONDERFUL GRANDCHILDERN YOU ARE MISSING OUT ON AND WHY DONT YOU BOTHER WITH ANYONE APART FROM YOURSELF YOU SELFISH SELF CENTERED WOMAN ?

Or d o i do the usual and we all smile like everything is hunky dorey again ?
Sorry its so long and dont really dont expect a reply but feel LOTS better now i have written it all down xxxx

Be the bigger person and smile sweetly.

Also, she has already brought up her children, so best not to expect help, IYSWIM.

She does sound a bit 'high maintenance' to be honest, so grit your teeth and trot up with your card.

I would feel sorry for your brother, still living at home, rather than resenting him.

Shame for your children that they haven't really got to know their grandma though

Post the card through the letter box then run.

Enjoy your Mothers' Day. You're a Mum of 3 so put your feet up and take the phone off the hook.

Good idea.
Might even send dd as drive past at lightening speed ----

I couldnt feel sorry for him because he can well afford a house of his own. My mother emplyed a live in nanny until i left home at 18, we also had a cleaner and an ironing lady.She didnt even get up in the night if we were ill !
I am THE BLACK SHEEP and have shocked her by my love of doing the whole fabulous thing myself and absolutely loving it.

Yes, I can see that he may well be able to afford to move out, but you can be triumphant that you have cut the apron strings and made a life for yourself

like this

I agree with boysarelikedogs as in "be the bigger person and smile sweetly" if she only lives 6 days away just toodle on there now and stay for 15 minutes, you then can come home (snigger at sad brother on way out) get your feet up and enjoy your special day