Resenting my husband

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Anonymous19882023 · 01/09/2023 03:37

Please tell me if AITA for resenting my husband.
Slight backstory to begin with we have a 4 year old and 16 week old twins. Husband has been away on a fishing trip for two nights leaving me with our children. Whilst away he started to feel poorly and now he’s back has tested positive for covid. Since been back home he has slept and taken the bedroom (I offered the room as I don’t want the twins getting Ill and they sometimes bed share) leaving me with sleeping downstairs with the twins on the sofa me the boys i their travel cot. AITA for now resenting my husband for coming back home ill and not helping out or offering for himself to sleep on the sofa whilst I take care of the children? I feel like my judgement is clouded from lack of sleep and just need some honest opinions if I’m being unreasonable

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Ponoka7 · 01/09/2023 07:46

givingupchocolatemonday · 01/09/2023 04:50

Covid is now classed as the common cold. If you test positive it makes no difference, you can still go to work and carry on with daily activities.
I would be taking care of the twins myself but asking him to chip in with housework etc.

If not, I would wait till he has recovered then simply say you deserve a break, take a few afternoon naps.

Maybe your feeling a bit under the weather yourself?

No medical professional is classing Covid as a common cold when it comes to new babies. Like flu, If you don't have symptoms you can carry on with housework etc. But some people will be floored by it.
OP the trip was agreed on, you gave him the bedroom, it's just a unlucky shit situation.

BitOutOfPractice · 01/09/2023 07:50

Husband should’ve gone in dc1’s bed.

but it’s too late for that now I guess.

and yes op I’d feel resentful too. How poorly actually is he?

Scaryghost · 01/09/2023 07:52

I know a fair few people lately who have had covid and they’ve been floored by it. In all fairness you did offer the bed. You should have sent him to sleep in your 4 year olds room and you and the dc taken yours.

Hufflepods · 01/09/2023 07:54

What are you resentful over? That he went on the trip? That he got sick? That he took your suggestion of staying in the bedroom?

The lesson is don’t be a martyr and offer things got don’t actually want to do as some sort of test. It’s utterly stupid for you and two babies to sleep in the living room while your husband has the bedroom to himself.
From tonight swap back around.

SadGirl6 · 01/09/2023 08:07

You have the right to be resentful. He went on selfish carefree weekend away, have you had a weekend completely away from the kids? Also, why is it when men are ill they forget they have children and go to bed all day, mothers aren’t allowed the same luxury! We just have to get on with it.

CurlewKate · 01/09/2023 08:33

Would anyone really want someone with Covid near babies?? Bloody hell, we do forget quickly!

IfYouMustThen · 01/09/2023 08:53

Why would you want him helping and passing covid round to everyone? You offered him the room for the reasons stated. I personally think YABU.

CurlewKate · 01/09/2023 08:55

As I said, you're perfectly OK to feel resentful-anyone would! But you are actually being unreasonable at the same time. Unless he is a arse who went away without any consideration, discussion or planning-and you said that's not what happened.

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