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To not want to be around someone who has covid?

42 replies

allthegoodgirlsgotohell · 31/08/2023 20:40

Friend is having a party tomorrow and one of the guests has covid.

Aibu to not want to go?

OP posts:
IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 31/08/2023 20:43

YANBU at all

I'd say that if it were any contagious disease

CalistoNoSolo · 31/08/2023 20:44

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 31/08/2023 20:43

YANBU at all

I'd say that if it were any contagious disease

Same.

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 31/08/2023 20:45

I wouldn’t go.

I think people turning up to parties with covid, flu, heavy colds, chicken pox or anything else knowingly contagious are utterly selfish.

Badbadbunny · 31/08/2023 20:45

Ditto, I'd not go near.

Teajenny7 · 31/08/2023 20:46

Think it is pretty rotten of someone to go to the party with covid or any infection.
I know several fit healthy people, with no underlying health issues that have long covid.

user76541055773 · 31/08/2023 20:46

YANBU I am sure I get exposed regularly, but I had long covid for 6 months and it sucked. I wouldn’t be deliberately putting myself in that position.

ConnieTucker · 31/08/2023 20:48

I have it now. Dont go.

lemonyaid · 31/08/2023 20:48

I too had long covid for months then got covid again and had to start recovery from scratch. It's not a joke

RampantIvy · 31/08/2023 20:49

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 31/08/2023 20:43

YANBU at all

I'd say that if it were any contagious disease

Same. I assume she has let you know the guest has covid? What would happen if eeryone else refuses to go because of this?

Why hasn't the host suggested that covid guest doesn't go?

BluebellsForest · 31/08/2023 20:50

YANBU. But...

To not want to be around someone who has covid?
SistersNotCisters · 31/08/2023 20:52

I wouldn't want to be around anyone with a cold never mind covid or flu (both of which can be horrendous). I would think the partygoer rude for attending with a contagious disease. It's a party, not a court summons. Attendance isn't usually mandatory and they've a good reason to stay home.
My kids school is like a ghost town this week because last week was a massive whole town event where thousands were all out in the streets and pubs for a whole week. Covid jumped at the chance to spread.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 31/08/2023 20:58

Why on Earth are they attending with Covid? That’s ridiculous of them.

Iusedtoliveinsanfrancisco · 31/08/2023 21:11

I’ve just got it. Don’t go.

Honeyandwine · 01/09/2023 09:02

Nooo. Do not go! I've just caught it again and feel awful. It is spreading so fast. Your friend should be telling them to stay home.

Guiltridden12345 · 01/09/2023 09:08

I wonder why you would test if you then do nothing as a result? I am not covid avoidant - the damage done by all this shutdown/stay in/don’t mix stuff is too great - but I wouldn’t go anywhere if I had a stinking cold just because. I’ve had a nasty bout of lingering covid (some would say long covid, I’d say post viral fatigue like I also had with a nasty flu) but that doesn’t change my view on it.

my view was always don’t test, crack on but if you’re ill behave as you would normally. But to party on a known positive is just weird. Undermines any point to testing (for those who choose to test).

AussieManque · 01/09/2023 09:12

Why is your friend willingly having someone with COVID at her party? At least she's done the decent thing and warned you, hopefully she's warned everyone else, it'll probably end up just her and COVID-person attending if anyone has sense.

Keep youself COVID-free!

HangingOver · 01/09/2023 09:12

I have it now. Dont go

Came here to say this. This strain has actually hit me way harder than Delta. It's totally fucked all my plans for this week and I'm really behind on work too 🙁

Figgygal · 01/09/2023 09:13

Weve just had a friend with it they weren't fit to come to a gathering their wife who was negative opted to stay home in case lo and behold next day shes got in and in bed for a week still feeling poorly 2 weeks later. The rest of us had holidays and a minor procedure coming up which they were aware of and considerate of.

Can't believe people are still so inconsiderate op I'd not be going and would tell the host why

Sauvblanctime · 01/09/2023 09:14

Wth?? My parents have it atm, dads vulnerable (just had heart attack & has cancer) so had to have an infusion. Hit them reasonably hard. Guest with vid should stay away!!!

DiscoBeat · 01/09/2023 09:15

How selfish of the person with Covid to go. No I wouldn't.

Sauvblanctime · 01/09/2023 09:16

Figgygal · 01/09/2023 09:13

Weve just had a friend with it they weren't fit to come to a gathering their wife who was negative opted to stay home in case lo and behold next day shes got in and in bed for a week still feeling poorly 2 weeks later. The rest of us had holidays and a minor procedure coming up which they were aware of and considerate of.

Can't believe people are still so inconsiderate op I'd not be going and would tell the host why

This! My mum tested every day & again weds eve before she popped to Asda, all negative. Thursday morn - blazing positive

Wheresthebloomingsummersunshine · 01/09/2023 09:17

Dont go. We both just caught what definitely felt like covid (but weirdly tested neg all week) and are still totally wiped out, lingering cough and no energy. 🤕

eandz13 · 01/09/2023 09:20

Honestly, I'm one of those that haven't given a shiny shite about covid from very early on, but I wouldn't actively and knowingly share space with someone that had it - just like I wouldn't with someone that had a bad cold or the flu. I don't seek out illness, that would be weird.

Lingfield01 · 01/09/2023 15:23

It wouldn’t bother me. Every time you walk into a shop, pub, restaurant you are surrounded by germs. You are definitely surrounded by people who are carrying covid, how do you think the virus spreads?