Hi all,
Sorry this is long but trying to be clear.,
I know that in the grand scheme of things this is peanuts but I can't work our why I'm still so pissed off.
Last year there was a big formal work related event near mine (5 minute walk)- live in a capital city and on the other side of most people. I had quite a few friends/acquaintances over before the event to get ready so everyone could dump their stuff, have a drink, get ready, walk to event. It sort of spiraled and at the end there were 15ish people at mine.
We were all in a rush to get ready, iron clothes, etc but it was all good all fun, a good bonding moment.
My cleaning lady popped in to borrow something insignificant during the rush ... she had cleared this borrowing with me during the week so no issue but hadn't said when she was going to pop in so I wasn't expecting her.
I have one board and one iron. All though we all have decent careers, none of us work in jobs where we have to wear formal ironed wear regularly and from how long it was taking - it was very obvious that most of the men couldn't iron to save their lives ... it was taking ages and the woman and I agreed quietly that we wouldn't iron the guys stuff.
Cleaning lady arrived during mayhem when with about 45 minutes to go before we had to leave 7 guys still had their shirts to iron.
She goes to say hello in the room they are ironing in watches for about a minute and tells them she's going to take over because there is no way we'll be out of the door in time if not.
She obviously though it was quite funny and she saved the day and ironed all of their shirts. (she's lovely like that), and I really don't think she expected anything except a story to tell her friends about incompetent young city types who can't iron ... Anyway, everyone gets dressed and out with perfectly ironed shirts
Without me asking at the end of the evening one of the guys comes to me and gives me some cash ( 50 euros - generous ) for my cleaning lady to say thank you for saving the day from all of the guys bar one, lets call him Collin who was apparently clear he wasn't going to be railroaded into paying.
I give the cleaning lady the 50 ... she's happy, I'm happy, everyone's happy.
Fast forward to this year - I'm at a dinner party on Sunday and Collin is there. Cleaning ladies come up in conversation - I basically say I love mine, she's a life changer, best thing I ever did for my mental health etc (all true). Colin then pipes up... "is she the chancer who pushed in and ironed your shirts for cash then".
I just replied "she asked for nothing mate ..." and the converstaion went on
I'm irrationally angry about this comment and I can't work out why.
Help me get over wanting to get back at Collin by doing something like replacing his office coffee with decaf.