Hi everyone,
My first post and probably a bit of a juvenile moan. I'm pregnant so I'm guessing it's part hormones so apologise in advance!
I feel like I'm mourning a friendship, AIBU to think bugger this and just cut ties?
One of my friends and my DH have
never got on. Not great but always been manageable, (I actually think they're quite similar, especially their negative traits and they just clash!). He doesn't need to be involved in every friendship I have, nor me his, and as long as they were polite to each other (they were) I couldn't really force much else.
However since my friend got engaged last year, she's decided everything she does with friends has to be in the form of a couple. Since my husband and her don't get on, she doesn't seem to want to do anything. I don't feel as if I fit in with her new lifestyle in a way.
We planned to go out for tea but I was early pregnancy and in and out of the doctors everyday because I was quite poorly, so at the time I had to cancel without much of a reason, but obviously I've since explained myself.
Me and DH never been a couple who does 'couples stuff' for want of a better phrase. If we're not working or with family then we're together. Time with friends is often our outlet or escape time and has been for all the years we've been together.
Obviously there are times when we get together with other friends, weddings, big birthdays etc, and he gets on great with my other friends, so it's not that no one likes him, he just doesn't gel with this one.
Anyway, since I told her I was pregnant around 2 months ago, the communication has gotten even worse. I only hear from her now if I text first, and other than an initial congratulations reply, she's shown no interest in how I, or the baby are doing. Not that I want buckets of attention, but I suppose I just expected an interest. This is our first child.
She's active on social media and out and about with others, I try and talk to her to take and interest, with the wedding, her holidays, work etc all normal stuff, but recently I'm starting to feel it's a bit forced.
She's originally said I was invited to the wedding, so I don't think it's to get me away from that.
I really don't know what to make of it, obviously it's not a friendship that's meant to last a life time and I'm just a bit sad about it. I thought maybe telling our pregnancy news would built some excitement, when she seems to have ran in the opposite direction.
I know I shouldn't be bothered, I've got a baby to look forward to! It just seems to have bothered me today.
Probably is hormones!
Thanks for letting me get that off my chest x