Don't/can't work AIBU?

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AIBU?

I was a victim of a serious big crime (even the detective in charge said that many times) last year and it took them almost a year to investigate and it was passed onto the cps & now cps are saying no charge and all removed all the criminals bail restrictions that were in place for me and my family's prosecution (I have since asked for a review of that).

But since I got the news. I have not been able to work because I am just weak, sad, in shock and spent the whole day looking for a lawyer to write to the cps, get advice on what else I can do to protect self & family etc

I can't work because I can't sit down for hours concentrating on work etc

AIBU not to be able to work or feel like working?

No yanbu. But CPS have made their decision, presumably due to lack of evidence. The police believe you're the victim of a serious crime though, you need to discuss with them what measures can ve put in place to keep you protected . Is the perpertrato r someone you know?

Oh, I'm so sorry. You must feel deeply betrayed.

Of course YANBU. That jumpy feeling is called hypervigilance, it's a symptom of PTSD. You obviously can't work if you're on constant high alert for a repeat attack - a doctor should sign you off on that basis.

While the CPS didn't find there was enough evidence for a reasonable chance of conviction, this doesn't mean they think the crime didn't happen! Glad you're talking to the police, as they should be able to put some things in place to help reassure you.

Wishing you all the support you need. Keep good people around you, and please remember to take reasonable care of yourself.

Thank you very much all

The police have left me high and dry by just telling me to beef up my personal security at home and to explore other legal avenues with my solicitors and I feel sad because getting justice should not depend on my bank account/how much money I have.

I have asked the CPS to review while looking into retraining orders etc.

Yeah people that were somewhat known to me

ALSO

I got a new 2nd job and got the bad news (which meant myself and family were no longer feeling safe) the day before I was to start job. With that news I felt and I still feel weak, sad, in fear, worried & can't concentrate on work at all.

But I managed to start 1st day training but I was not concentrating at all and

I called in sick the 2nd day (I could not just work + I needed to make lots of personal calls etc)

I want to call in sick today again 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️ because I still have a lot to do regarding the bad news and making myself and family safe etc

But I am now wondering what the employer might do. Fire me? Put me on a different project if I miss substantial amount of training on the project currently working on?

Victim Support should be able to help with legal form-filling, grants for home security and rehousing if necessary. It does rather depend on who you get, though: some are like the competent headmistress we all should have had, while others are like the half-eaten lettuce you found at the back of the salad drawer.

Do give them a chance do what they're for, though. Later posters will doubtless know where else you can draw support.

2 weeks on and I am still not able to bring myself to sitting down to work (I work from home). I am suppose to return to work today and here I am at my desk sad as hell and a million things running through my mind. I do not feel ready at all for this especially this new job with me sitting down till 5pm for the training.

If it's a job where I have to be on my feet and active,walking around- it will be better & that will keep my mind occupied with other things but with this, I most probably won't concentrate at all during the training.

I am so so worried about my kids @ school etc and the family in general & I can believe how the legal justice system is designed in this way to leave victims high and dry like this

I feel like there is a sword in my heart, I feel let down, betrayed, I feel like a second-class citizen.
😭😭😭😭😭😭

I think I will resign from this new job

I’m very sorry that this happened to you.

You’re under no obligation to work if you don’t want to. As ,o h as your family is able to support you then it’s not really anyone else’s business.

I do believe though that for most people a job will be helpful in all sorts of ways, so hope that in time you feel able to return.

Can you survive ok without a job?

No, I will struggle without work hence I will have to go back after my sick note expires and I hope I am able to by then otherwise, I am completely screwed thanks to the CPS