Scared of pregnancy

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I’ve just found out that I am pregnant with my third child. It was unexpected and I should be thankful and excited.

instead, I just feel panicked and scared. My two children (5 yo and 1 yo) were both born by c-section and I had some complications with haemorrhaging and an infection after my second child. I’m terrified of having another section as I understand they get more and more risky each time.

I just don’t want to die and my children lose their mum. MyDH is telling me to stop catastrophising but I can’t help it.

AIBU to be scared?

Does anyone have any words of encouragement please?

I was in the same boat as you! My first baby was born at 31 weeks, she kicked my appendix and perforated it and it caused peritonitis. I had to have exploratory surgery while pregnant they gave me a long line incision and took my appendix out. 2 days later I had to have a c section so they re opened me on the same incision and delivered my girl. 5 years later I was pregnant with my boy, he was too big for me to deliver so after alot of trying I started to spike a fever and they delivered him through an emergency c section with a regular incision. Fast forward to 13 months later my littlest boy was a textbook normal birth with a little help from forceps. No birth is the same, take it all in your stride. And I can fully understand your worry. I found c section births harder to recover from than vaginal.

Oh thank you so much for sharing. I can’t sleep for worrying and your message has really calmed me down. So good to hear your third birth was the textbook one even after your first two which sound difficult.

thanks again for your kind words. They have helped me xxx

No birth is the same, my first 2 weren't brilliant but as long as mum and baby are good in the end then that's the goal. I think that's what mum's do, they think about every scenario. We can't help it. So don't stress and take it easy x