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Retirement/leaving do etiquette

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RoloThough · 30/08/2023 21:13

I love my role, albeit I’m junior and have only been there around 2 years. My team is small (6 of us). We all know each other well and work together well

On the periphery we have another maybe 30-40 people that work in a couple of other departments. Some work overlaps but most doesn’t and due to the role being pretty hybrid, I very rarely see or even communicate with other employees who aren’t on my team and same goes for them to us - except they all know each other better as they’ve worked together for many years and in comparison I guess I’m still newish. There’s a handful of colleagues that I have maybe met once.

It’s someone’s leaving do coming up. I can count on one hand the amount of times I have met them, and there have maybe been 3 days where I’ve worked in the same office as them and had a couple of ‘small talk’ kinds of conversations. They seem a very nice person but we don’t know anything about each other really.

They have invited everyone to drinks to celebrate their retirement but I am unsure about going. I don’t usually choose to go to work events but don’t want to be seen as odd or rude to the person for not going, drinking routinely isn’t my thing and tbh I have other things I’d rather be doing

Sorry this was way more long winded than it needed to be. WIBU not to go?

OP posts:
UsingChangeofName · 30/08/2023 23:43

Of course YANBU.
They have probably felt they are being polite in opening it up to everyone, but will very likely presume that only people who feel they are closer to them / have worked closely with them will turn up.
I would reply, to let them know you aren't able to make it, but wish them well.

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