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To be upset she has blocked and deleted me.

19 replies

Leuvcie · 30/08/2023 14:15

I was good friends with a relatives partner. Their child is the same age as mine and we used to meet regularly when they were babies and then we went to toddler groups . They are 3 now. She has another baby and we have both gone back to work and we don’t see each other as often. We were trying to arrange a meet up but had conflicting available days to meet. I took a while to reply back to her due to having things on, which she does the same to me and I didn’t mind as she is busy with the children and work. She has now deleted me on Facebook and blocked me on WhatsApp

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Trenchfootinthescottishhighlandstoday · 30/08/2023 14:17

Having things on...
Translates to cba to me.
You found time to post here though...

Notimeforaname · 30/08/2023 14:18

Of course you can be upset about it but as you say, you have a lot on. Just concentrate on that and try not to dwell on it.
Remind yourself that we all have the right to speak to who we want and to cut off those we don't.
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TheAOEAztec · 30/08/2023 14:19

Bet you she had a post here about that and was advised to block

Butchyrestingface · 30/08/2023 14:20

Seems a bit of an overreaction given that you say she does the same to you.

Is she prone to dramatics? Or a 'do as I say and not as a I do' type?

Thepeopleversuswork · 30/08/2023 14:34

Some of the flouncing and over-reactions to perceived slights in getting back to people that you hear about on here are ludicrous. So unbelievably childish. How the fuck did people cope in the days when an instant reaction wasn't possible?

If she's that much of a drama queen I think you're better off without her.

girlfriend44 · 30/08/2023 14:47

People are childish blocking people.

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 30/08/2023 14:49

Unless this was the tip of the iceberg for her and there's not been prior disagreements,. I feel that people who love to block on a whim, ( I mean the ones who do it in a petulant - you didn't reply to me quickly enough way) are really just attention seeking.

They take offence. So their reaction is to cut you off - because they know that will make you take notice. and it will hurt, which they think serves you right.

But at the same time, they've cut you off so they have cut off the source of making you feel bad for not doing what they want. . Once done, they can't continue having the satisfaction of doing this and then what can they do to vent their displeasure?

So I bet you will hear from her again where she will air her grievances and demand apologies. She knows you could contact her via the relative so cutting you off was a safe way of making you feel bad. She wasn't really cutting ties. She was making a point and a hurtful one at that.

CruCru · 30/08/2023 14:50

Yeah, blocking people for small reasons is actually a really weird thing to do.

TeaKitten · 30/08/2023 14:52

Seen as she’s family I’d contact your relative and ask them what’s going on.

MidnightMeltdown · 30/08/2023 14:54

Wow - that seems like a incredibly immature way for a grown adult to behave. She clearly has problems.

Nobody needs petty people like that in their life, be grateful that she blocked you.

Daddylonglegs123 · 30/08/2023 15:03

I would be inclined to let sleeping dogs lie here.

She sounds like a bit of an OTT drama queen and you sound like you CBA to reply (not sure how long you left things but some people are just like this).

I am on a whatsapp group with 5 ex work colleague friends. Most of us reply to messages especially when trying to organise a date and time to get together fairly quickly. But one friend either sends a vague meaningless reply or takes an eternity to reply so we can’t move forward.
She did this about a night to celebrate her birthday recently (when she finally got round to responding two of the group were unavailable so she was miffed).

I wouldn’t block someone for this and don’t know anyone who would do this either.

cameldigits · 30/08/2023 15:46

Bet she comes back with a friend request in the future

At which point, ignore! She sounds like a chore. Not a mate

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 30/08/2023 16:10

Don’t be upset - be relieved. You would have been stuck with years of this attention-seeking drama.

Tambatamba · 30/08/2023 16:15

Blocking you is so over the top.

I don't think she was a friend in the first place.

Missingmyusername · 30/08/2023 16:16

Thepeopleversuswork · 30/08/2023 14:34

Some of the flouncing and over-reactions to perceived slights in getting back to people that you hear about on here are ludicrous. So unbelievably childish. How the fuck did people cope in the days when an instant reaction wasn't possible?

If she's that much of a drama queen I think you're better off without her.

^ I agree with this.

Baconking · 30/08/2023 16:24

Thepeopleversuswork · 30/08/2023 14:34

Some of the flouncing and over-reactions to perceived slights in getting back to people that you hear about on here are ludicrous. So unbelievably childish. How the fuck did people cope in the days when an instant reaction wasn't possible?

If she's that much of a drama queen I think you're better off without her.

OP doesn't say how long she took to reply. Maybe it was several weeks rather than a few hours

Thepeopleversuswork · 30/08/2023 17:00

@Baconking

Whatever. I wouldn't block someone because they are busy and preoccupied. It's a self-obsessed dick move.

Blocking in general is absurdly over-used. It's meant to be a last resort for people who are being stalked, harassed or abused. Not meant to be a handy "flounce button" because someone hasn't paid you enough attention.

In almost every case blocking someone just makes the blocker look petty and small-minded.

DrSbaitso · 30/08/2023 17:03

Are you sure that's why she blocked you? No back story?

If so, chuck it in the fuck it bucket. Anyone who blocks over something so minor without discussing it first is too much trouble to deal with.

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 30/08/2023 18:17

Baconking · 30/08/2023 16:24

OP doesn't say how long she took to reply. Maybe it was several weeks rather than a few hours

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So rather than, for example, messaging OP and saying “Is everything okay? I was worried when you didn’t reply to my last message”, she presses the block button?

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