If you have a 40 something Dh/Dp

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What are they like?

Are they still fun and relaxed etc?

Yes mine hasn't changed since his early 20s when we met. Still enjoys similar things, nights out, meals out, fun days, holidays.

I met my husband when he was 43 (me 39). Yes we did loads but of stuff, theatre, museums, dinners out, pub lunch at the weekend, weekends away. Slowed a lot when we had kids though!

Yes and yes.

Strange question - why do you ask?

Yes. More fun and relaxed than me and I'm 4 years older than him!

Normally. He’s had a rough couple of years with work stress and bereavement though so he’s not his usual self right now.

He’s the life and soul of every party.

He works very hard so when Friday afternoon arrives he’s like a 5 year old on a sugar rush!
I’m 6 years younger than DH and I get knackered just watching him buzzing around!
He does snore very loudly and keep me awake though 😡

Met at 25. Now 40. He's the same man.

He's always been quite quiet. More so since he stopped drinking. He does have a sense of adventure though, just the same as a younger man might. I don't think of either him or myself as being middle aged, though we are both mid-40s. We are younger in our dress and outlook I feel, tho it's hard to define that in specifics.

Mines still fun at 55, possibly too much bursting in to 1980’s songs but yes we still have a good time together. It’s a gentler time. No more getting drunk and the night bus home and running down the road and us deciding to do a Dirty Dancing move, you know the one and me knocking him out as I landed on him.

My Dh is 48 and is relaxed and fun, way more than what he was when he was younger so he tells me (had caring responsibilities as a late teen / 20s for his mother so grew up too soon. Now is is free from that and his life became how own so to speak from his 30s).
exh on the other hand went from the life and soul in his 20s and 30s to an absolute depressed misery in his 40s/50s. He has now aged so much due to depression and bitterness, he’s like a completely different person.

Nope. He's turned into a grumpy old man.

Still the same man. We actually do more now like go out for meals, holidays etc as my kids are independent. I love being in my 40’s.

43 - socially very awkward and pretty negative. Happier and content (and nicer to be around) when at home than out and about.

Mid-forties and he's always been fun and easy going. Probably even more so now kids are (almost) grown and we're both working less.

I think this age would be harder if you have small children and stressful working lives which many of our friends do.

DH is 40 and definitely still fun. He has what many would consider a stressful job but he seems to thrive on it. He's always been very laid back since I met him at 21, he's one of those people who takes charge and keeps everyone calm in a crisis, and knows how to diffuse potentially difficult situations with a joke. He's throws himself into playing with the DC and our friends DC. He likes to travel and to go out and experience different foods, live music, comedy and events. He's more relaxed and fun than I am to be honest!

Yeah ? Is there a reason why you are asking? Still have a good time at weekend, wants to go out for dinner etc, spends days with me. It has been a few stressful years due to a death in family, things life has thrown at us but have got through it, actually made it more to enjoy life. We both get tired quicker though think that's due to age 😝He doesn't drink anymore either but doesn't stop me from drinking

My DH is 50 and slightly less fun than when we met in our mid-20’s. He’s getting more like his Dad, who can make a fuss about everything “being right.”

We were traveling last week, for example, and DH was really fussing about getting to the airport early in a way that he never did before…he basically irritated everyone with his fuss, even though we weren’t running late at all. The kids noticed and asked what was wrong with Dad. 😂

His own Dad has always been like that!

But he still likes to go out regularly and try new things, as he always has so that’s great.

Mine is 47.
works full time and 2 young kids…. more tired than 10-15 years ago.
But he is still fun and active - plays footy twice a week, goes to gigs, enjoy the odd night out, cinema, trips to beach or moors.
we have a lot of laughs together and regular sex.
he makes time to play with kids and take them places (park, soft play, trampolining etc).

He can be, it depends on what is going on. We have a big blended family and he is a senior teacher in a large school so life isn't always fun and games. He understands me and my and our children, is kind and intelligent and can have fun when it's appropriate.

Mine is 55 and definitely fun! He runs so is very fit. Always happy, never stressed or moody. We have loads of sex and he even comes home from work in his lunch hour for sex. I'm a lot younger than him. He's a proper joker and always the life and soul of the party, always up for anything.

My DH is 43 and yes we still have a lot of laughs. He's a lot more light hearted then me. We're 9 years in and it's felt good this year. Year 7 was crap though.. lots of arguing.

He's funny, smart, sweet and kind. And a bit of a knob sometimes.

Has been known to get a little tetchy, but a look tends to sort that out or, at most, a mild reminder of boundaries with a clear opportunity to retreat unscathed (ie, the socially acceptable way of conveying 'Who the fuck do you think you are speaking to me like that?/Are you really sure that you want to go there - we can stop now and everybody's dignity remains intact?')

But 99.9% of the time, he's relaxed, peaceful and funny and makes me smile and laugh every day. It's just that 0.1% where he remembers what it looks like when my hackles are raising.

This is my husband to a tee except he is 41