Same with washing- sticking clothes in the machine takes no time. Collecting said clothes, sorting colours, getting them dry, sorting into individual's and putting them away does take time and it's like a refusal to acknowledge that.
I think things like this are subjective because everyone has basic standards/systems that are their "default" and everyone assumes they have similar set ups so they asume everyone is starting from the same point in the process when they aren't. Also some people take each step separately so when you say "Washing takes 5 mins" they only include anything up to the point of getting the clothes into the machine whereas other people see "washing" as anything up to the clean clothes being returned to the wardrobe/drawer which takes longer than five minutes and is where the disconnect comes.
So take the washing example, DD and I live in a small flat and have a sorter laundry basket that lives in the hall between our bedrooms. There's only the two of us (and just me on weeks when DD is with her dad) so we rarely need to do more than one load of each (lights/whites/darks/towels and sheets) per week.
When I come to do laundry all I have to do is take the relevent basket (lights/whites/darks) and put it in the machine. From collecting the basket to turning on the machine takes about a minute and a half due to the fact all of the sorting is pre done and the basket lives literally 15 steps away from the washing machine due to the size of our flat.
When it comes to drying it, we don't have a tumble dryer (no space) or outside space for a line so it all goes on an airer in the kitchen and all I have to do is take the clothes from the machine and immediately hang them on the airer, it takes 5/6 mins at most.
Putting away the clothes takes maybe 5-10 mins as we are mostly a folding family and I don't really iron so things go from the airer, folded into a basket (and I tend to batch things so take all DDs t-shirts and fold them and then her bottoms etc so when she puts them away she just has to take the pile of tops and the pile of bottoms and put them into the drawer) and then into the bedroom 15 steps away to be put away.
My sister on the other hand has three kids in a three floor townhouse ... Each child has their own laundry basket so on laundry day she collects each basket from the top floor, brings them to their utility room in the basement, sorts them all into L/D/W piles and puts the first load on which takes 10/15 minutes.
When the laundry is done they have a large garden so she hangs stuff out to dry as much as possible so has to put it in the basket, take it upstairs and outside and peg it all out ... If it's raining she has a dryer but puts as much as possible on airers in their conservatory so still has to take stuff out of the washer, sort it into"dryer/airer" piles, take the airer pile up the stairs, set up the airer and hang it all up which easily takes 20 mins.
When it's done she is an ironer and hangs lots of things so putting laundry away means she has to bring it in off the line where it's then split into "ironing pile" and "things to be taken to their rooms" and she has to split things into multiple baskets and then return the baskets to the rooms on the top floor, all of which takes about 20 minutes
So for me, all in, laundry (from dirty clothes to being back in the drawer) takes 20 active minutes -wash cycle not included - whereas for my sister it takes an hour, just because our individual circumstances are different not because either of us is faster/slower at the actual process.