I have 3 children, DS15, DD15 and DD6. My older DS and DD are twins and don't get along at all, it's mainly DS constantly going in her room and annoying her which causes her to retaliate. His attitude is awful, he constantly shouts and swears at me and both DD's, is violent etc etc. My youngest has SN and just wants to show him her toys, she's the same with all of us not just him but DS is constantly rude to her, telling her to go away which she doesn't understand.
He started getting into fights just before the summer holidays and it carried on to the start of the holidays, as well as drinking. His dad isn't interested, my DP works away for weeks at a time so it was just me dealing with him all the time. I had enough so we all visited my dad and I left DS with him, he's been there for a month. Although, we all did go on holiday 2 weeks ago, we had some 1 to 1 time and he did apologise.
He's due back this weekend as he starts school next week but he's told my dad he doesn't want to come home and has threatened to start the behaviour again because he hates us all, even DP and he isn't here most of the time.
He hasn't got a school near my dad so he can't stay, part of me thinks he should but I know him leaving him there will BU and seem like I'm abandoning him, it's also unfair on my dad and his partner as they both have other children of their own.