Post-menopause, do you personally no longer have much of a sex drive?

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I've heard this happens to some women and I've wondered how common it is.

I'm not going through it yet, but probably will soon based on when my mum had it.

Is it worth me looking for a new relationship if in a few years' time I find a man's 'needs' even more annoying?

My mum didn't lose her drive after she went through menopause at 47, only now in her mid 70s is she less bothered about wanting to have a partner.

It’s a bit odd to not seek a relationship now just in case you lose your sex drive, although if you already think of mens ‘needs’ as annoying, maybe it’s the case that you don’t have much sex drive now anyway?

Personally I’d be happy never to have sex again, but everyone else seems happy enough to carry on so I feel it’s just me that’s odd.

How a lot of men nag for sex is annoying, I don't think it's just me.

Ok if they would wait for both people to be in the mood for sex, that's fine, that's when sex should happen. But a lot of them don't just do that.

Yep, mines totally gone.

I'm 54 and my libido has dwindled significantly. HRT has helped a little, but I'd really not care much if I never had sex again. DH still wants sex, though, but less so than when he was younger. We muddle through.

I am 53 and my dh is 59 our sex life post menopause seems to go in fits and starts! We sort of go weeks without then have a mad few days of not being able to get enough of each other! its odd but its ok cos we are both ok with how things are. Its just different I think.

With HRT completely normal.
Without... forget about it.

Mine has packed up and left home. I could happily never DTD again. Difficult when you're married.

My libido has gone and when we do do it I enjoy it. I also think needing lube kind of kills the mood too.

Yep not all fussed about sex anymore - pre menopause I was the one who wanted it far far more than DH. Now I’m not all fussed about it.

(1) I wouldn't care if I never had sex again

(2) I still want to be in a loving relationship

(3) I wouldn't want to be pestered for sex

These are three separate issues

10 years post menopause here and I can’t think of anything worse than having sex! 7 years divorced so fortunately I don’t have to. Sometimes think it would be nice to have a ‘boyfriend’ for holidays etc - but sex, no. No desire whatsoever.

(1) I wouldn't care if I never had sex again (2) I still want to be in a loving relationship. (3) I wouldn't want to be pestered for sex. These are three separate issues

@NeedToChangeName I don't think they're 100% separate because we'd have to be with a guy who was ok without much sex.

But I suppose a decent guy who really loved us, even if he wanted more sex, wouldn't be a pest.

Mine has totally gone, well mostly. Literally couldn’t be bothered if I ever had sex again. Sad for my dh though. We just sort of accept it is what it is and occasionally I might have a moment. I do have a lot of medical issues though and that’s what’s mainly done it - went into menopause due to various autoimmune issues at 37, I’m 42 now. I think it’s a lot more common than people think, just people don’t admit it because the media makes everyone think sex is the be all and end all of everything.

Should add I have been on HRT for years, tried everything, makes no difference.