Am I unfashionable/ boring/ old/ being over protective?

[mummynumber2]

Or is it un-acceptable for my 11 yo DSD to wear knee high, high heeled boots, mini skirt, fake leather plastic jacket, full make-up including bright red lipstick, huge hoop earings?
Please help, DP and I at our wits end!

DP is absolulty horrified by this. His natural reaction has been to tell her she is not to wear this kind of clothing and make-up but she more recently has responded by taking herself to her mothers house. Last week he tried to have a very grown up conversation with her about why it is that he feels the way he does about how she looks which seemed to go well at the time but again had no effect. Unfortunatly her mother has said to her that DP is being a 'controll freak' by telling her how to dress.
Now DP has decided that the more subtle approach may work best. He's asked me to have a word with her as we get on very well and she sees me as less of a parent figure. What I don't want to do is fall out with her over this too!

Hooker chic is da bomb dahling!

But I think some posters may want to take a leetle step back for a mo. Dressing like a bratz doll does not a future career in prostitution make.

I agree it is undesirable on children.

I would definately suggest trying to treat a bit grown-up and take her shopping, tell her a couple of make-up tricks, less is more.

Wot lynette said.

I think maybe a shopping trip for something more appropriate may be about all you can do. You and your DH obviously have very different taste to DSD's mother and (while I completely understand your reactions) criticizing either of them probably won't help.
Does DH have a good enough relationship with his XP to talk to her about DSD looking so 'grown up' though? (Realise I've just contradicted myself, but I mean a calm, concerned kind of chat if that's possible?!)

YANBU.That is not an appropiate outfit fot an 11 year old. My dd's didn't even start wearing make up until they were 13.

Why not treat her to a make over at one of the department store and then maybe buy a lipstick/ eyeshadow. This should make her feel grown up.