Background. My ex started an online relationship with a woman from the Philippines when we still lived together (living near enough separate lives though). He forced us to move out of the house citing financial woes last year. Yes he’s an absolute shit. We now live in rented and he gives me £200 a month child maintenance while living a life of luxury. Anyway he’s been to see her 5 times over the past 18 months. Lying about where he was going to a start with but then I found out that it wasn’t a business trip it was seeing her.
Anyway off he goes again in June after telling me he was financially crippled and found out yesterday he has proposed to her and they are getting married at the end of the year. Only found out as an acquaintance of his asked my daughter what she thought about him gettting married when she was out. She was shell shocked.
so the question is do I tell him we know or go along with the children who feel we should wait till he tells them.
and yes he is a complete narcissist but luckily my kids have survived him even though they think very little of him and are severely embarrassed that he is marrying a woman 30 years younger than him.