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Women should be prevented from drug taking in pregnancy

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Caterpillarsleftfoot · 29/08/2023 13:51

I have just come back from a holiday with my nephew's who were exposed to drugs in utero (adopted). I'm also a school teacher who has taught drug and alcohol exposed children.

Seeing the challenges they face made me think why on earth it is allowed.

If you hurt your child every day when they are 6 months, 2 years, 5 years old then they are removed from your care. Why are you allowed to hurt an unborn baby? If a woman is known to take drugs or daily alcohol, then why is she not taken into a protective custody in a hospital/ secure unit for the remainder of the pregnancy to prevent her harming the child?

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category12 · 29/08/2023 15:32

Caterpillarsleftfoot · 29/08/2023 14:25

So you can cause as much life long damage as you like then give birth to a very damaged baby and we can all worry about it's wellbeing then?

I am so astounded at these responses.

I'm a woman and mother of three, for those questioning it. I'm pro abortion below 12 weeks and until 24 weeks in the case of a child having a severely diminished way of life if something is detected.

I believe a woman does not have the right to do what she likes when pregnant or after birth of it hurts her child. I believe the good enough SS threshold is too high and we allow too much harm to children.

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No idea how you can possibly twist your brain so much that you can claim to be pro-choice and argue this at the same time. You make no sense.

SouthLondonMum22 · 29/08/2023 15:34

BaroldandNedmund · 29/08/2023 15:26

I agree with you OP. Imagine a situation where say, a 39 week pg woman takes so many drugs that the baby is seriously injured. One week later, just because the baby isn’t inside her body, she’d go to prison (one would hope) for GBH.

Just because an unborn baby/foetus (whatever you choose to call this human being) has no rights, doesn’t mean that it shouldn’t. It’s unworkable I know, but I strongly believe that a baby has rights. If a baby is born prematurely at 30 weeks it has rights …it shouldn’t make any difference where that baby resides.

I’m not sure why this has to have anything to do with ASD. My family all have ASD.

A baby born at 30 weeks has rights because it is born and becomes its own separate person.

It would only be possible to do this if a foetus is given the same rights as a born baby. This would mean also making abortions illegal because they cause harm to foetus'.

Hadjab · 29/08/2023 15:34

Caterpillarsleftfoot · 29/08/2023 14:36

I think that is a personal choice. As it goes, my brother carries a genetic condition that has a roughly 50/50 heritability and he was not prepared to take that risk which is why my niece and nephews are adopted.

I think it is very different from drug and alcohol use.

I clearly see this differently to others.

How is it different though?

Say I'm an alcoholic. I continue to drink my 1/2 bottle of vodka a day. Let's assume there is a 50% possibility that my unborn child could be left disabled by the effects of the alcohol.

Now, let's say I have a genetic condition with a 50% chance that my baby could be left disabled by the effects of the genetic condition.

In line with your thinking, in both of these scenarios should I not be locked up for the duration of the pregnancy because I'm making a choice that will affect the quality of my child's life? Actually, in both scenarios shouldn't you be forcing me to have an abortion, because I'm playing the lottery with my child's future?

SpidersAreShitheads · 29/08/2023 15:35

@Caterpillarsleftfoot - are you going to come back and answer the questions being posed here?

I understand your impassioned sentiment - but was this just an emotional outburst from you, or do you have any thoughts on some of the questions raised?

What are the cutoffs for you - presumably you're not going to lock up every woman who has any alcohol at all? Plenty of pregnant women enjoy the occasional glass of wine (I abstained completely so I'm not defending myself here). Standard blood tests only show what has been drunk in the last 12 hours. How would you monitor it?

Similar questions for drugs. Cannabis has similar risks to smoking for the unborn foetus - so would you extend your policy to include any woman who smokes during pregnancy too?

And would you be concerned that this policy of holding women would deter some from seeking medical help during pregnancy, potentially putting the most vulnerable foetuses at even greater risk (not to mention the woman too!)?

I understand the reasons why you feel the way you do - but having raised the subject, it would be really good if you came back and answered some of the questions so we can have a proper debate about differing opinions on where the line for autonomy vs foetal safety lies.

whosaidtha · 29/08/2023 15:37

Has anyone here actually seen a newborn baby going through heroine withdrawal? Go and see the pain that they are suffering and then shout about bodily autonomy.

frozencarlotta · 29/08/2023 15:37

Lifeomars · 29/08/2023 15:22

What would you do with women who continued to smoke tobacco while pregnant or who lived with in a household where there are smokers and therefore were exposing the foetus to second hand smoke? Can you see that your draconian and dystopian views have a wider reach than just alcohol and street drugs? What about women who do not follow a healthy diet while pregnant, who do not attend antenatal appointments? Of course nobody thinks that using substances while pregnant is a good thing but as a society we can only advise, educate and support, not prohibit and detain.

and those who go outside where there are traffic fumes that can be breathed in, and those who sunbath who can get skin cancer, and those who get in cars which can crash...

bastard pregnant women - they just dont care

Boomboom22 · 29/08/2023 15:38

The insane pro choice twisters have turned up. No, pro choice never meant it's OK to do wha5ever you want up to birth, or to be ok with abortion up to birth, that is clearly ridiculous.
Mainstream pro choice is exactly as op, science based. Any reason to 12 weeks, more serious to 24 and possibly beyond if not found out until then.
Anyone arguing for beyond 24 weeks for any reason other than life ending disability just sounds like a science denier. Of course there are limits.

frozencarlotta · 29/08/2023 15:38

category12 · 29/08/2023 15:32

No idea how you can possibly twist your brain so much that you can claim to be pro-choice and argue this at the same time. You make no sense.

in the 24 case, what about issues that dont show til later?

scoobysnaxx · 29/08/2023 15:39

OP this isn't about women having the right to take drugs over their child. No one LIKES that idea or is okay with it.

The problem is that there is no way to enforce it! It is a very slippery slope and heading towards dystopian.

Unless there is a practical ways to enforce it, there is nothing we can do?

Onelifeonly · 29/08/2023 15:41

This is a very complex ethical and practical issue. You sound rather naive OP in that all you see is a 'evil' mothers who care not a jot for their unborn children and a faceless authority that doesn't care or isn't allowed to do anything about it. It makes you sound like an idealistic teen or someone who has very little to do with the world a lot of people live in. Not to mention no knowledge of the nuances of ethics. (PS I'm a primary school teacher too and my adopted children had these kinds experiences you are talking about in utero).

FOJN · 29/08/2023 15:41

Caterpillarsleftfoot · 29/08/2023 14:10

I am genuinely so shocked that people are so pro women and anti protection of a child. I absolutely cannot wrap my head around the idea that do many people are ok with knowing a woman is hurting a baby but allowing it to continue.

I don't think you do have a "right" to decide what goes in your body when it's harming another human.

Those who say you can't pick and choose body autonomy or where to draw the line. Of course you can. That would be like asking where the line for child protection/ removal of children/ adoption is. Uncomfortable as it is, there is a line that can be crossed.

Are you being disingenuous or do you really not understand the concept of bodily autonomy?

No one here is OK with the harm done to a foetus by a mother taking drugs or drinking when pregnant but you don't seem to recognise the slippery slope of taking away a woman's right to bodily autonomy to protect a foetus. Referring to the foetus as a baby, as many people understandably do, does not change the fact that it is not a baby until it is born, when it then acquires all the same rights as the rest of us.

Women drinking and taking drugs during pregnancy are rarely making a "choice", as so many here seem to believe; addiction is a compulsion, not a choice and if you don't understand that then be grateful.

Saz12 · 29/08/2023 15:43

Terrifying to think that an educator of children believes that the state removing our rights over our own bodies would be a good thing.

landbeforegrime · 29/08/2023 15:43

It's an interesting question, but where do you draw the line - smoking and unhealthy eating also present risks to unborn children. Once a baby is born, should breast feeding be forced upon women who are able to do it but would choose not to? I am not being facetious, but it's hard to know where it should stop. I am sure there was a case about criminally prosecuting a pregnant woman for harming her unborn child through drugs or alcohol but it was decided it couldn't be a crime (I think more because technically the unborn child is not a person so there's no victim, rather than the decision being that the woman had bodily autonomy, but I could be wrong as to what the reasoning for the decision was). Even if this were to be made law, how would it work practically? A lot of alcoholics/drug users would go to ground and the outcomes for the children could be even worse. If we're going down that route of not burdening a child with lifelong effects of their (birth) mother's poor choices, wouldn't it make more sense to test all pregnant women for drug/alcohol use at 20 weeks pregnant and if they are found to be users/drinkers, then force abortion? But this would never be accepted. The damage is quite likely to have been done by the time you identify the drug/alcohol using expectant mothers so what good would forcing abstinence on them actually do if the unborn child has already been exposed? And what about the drug/alcohol use prior to the pregnancy being known about? Should those mother's be trusted not to do it again, who would decide if they are lying it was a one off? The current system is not perfect but when people are flawed and imperfect themselves I am not sure there is a better system out there. Maybe it should be a criminal offence and that might deter women from doing it, but if the addiction is stronger than their instinct to protect their unborn child then I'm not sure that the threat of a spell in prison is going to make any difference.

CoalCraft · 29/08/2023 15:46

A friend of mine has just discovered she's pregnant at 20 weeks. She'd had the injection so should have been protected. She's keeping it, because the idea of killing and delivering a near-fully-formed baby doesn't appeal to her, but she went out drinking fairly frequently over the last few months and is very concerned about the effects on the child.

As much as I agree that people shouldn't drink or smoke or take illegal drugs while pregnant, unfortunately there's not some big light that comes on when you conceive and even with the best will in the world, these things can happen by accident.

Insommmmnia · 29/08/2023 15:46

Caterpillarsleftfoot · 29/08/2023 14:18

What if the woman in question already has children but drinks heavily, she finds out she's pregnant and the baby is at risk of Fetal alcohol syndrome so she's locked up for the baby's safety ... What happens to her other children if no family are available to take them in at short notice for months? The care system is already stretched as it is dealing with children at genuine risk of harm

Well, I would be very sad to think anyone drinking enough to cause FAS would have any children still in their care.

It is enforceable, the same way that any child protection is enforceable.a lot of babies removed at birth it is because there is known drug and or alcohol use.

There is no known safe level of alcohol to consume when pregnant

Whilst it tends to be larger amounts of alcohol that cause FASD, FAS as you are talking about could be smaller amounts

Taking all children into care because a women drunk a few glasses of wine, possibly before even knowing she was pregnant and unfortunately that caused FAS is a bit of an over reaction

Do you even know anything about foster care, speciation anxiety and attachment disorders when you are advocating for taking children away so easily?

coffeeandcake00 · 29/08/2023 15:46

whosaidtha · 29/08/2023 15:37

Has anyone here actually seen a newborn baby going through heroine withdrawal? Go and see the pain that they are suffering and then shout about bodily autonomy.

Thank you! I am so glad someone has said this. I can not believe some of the awful comments on this thread. People seemed to have lost all sense of humanity.

SouthLondonMum22 · 29/08/2023 15:47

Boomboom22 · 29/08/2023 15:38

The insane pro choice twisters have turned up. No, pro choice never meant it's OK to do wha5ever you want up to birth, or to be ok with abortion up to birth, that is clearly ridiculous.
Mainstream pro choice is exactly as op, science based. Any reason to 12 weeks, more serious to 24 and possibly beyond if not found out until then.
Anyone arguing for beyond 24 weeks for any reason other than life ending disability just sounds like a science denier. Of course there are limits.

Yet the current law disagrees with that.

It is legal for women to have abortions up to 24 weeks, not 12 weeks.
It is legal for women to smoke tobacco and drink alcohol during their pregnancies.

OP isn't just talking about morally, what she's talking about would ultimate change the current law because you can't give a foetus the same rights as a newborn and also keep abortion as a legal option.

babyproblems · 29/08/2023 15:47

You’re not wrong that it’s horrible but there’s no way any control over pregnant women should be the societal norm!!! Of course not.

Also many parents make shit decisions for their children. What about those who gamble? Those who don’t feed them properly? Those who allow them to suffer?? You can see how this is not enforceable in any way and that life is full of nuances- none of us are perfect and women have enough shit to deal with even in 2023 without losing control of their own bodies

coffeeandcake00 · 29/08/2023 15:49

Saz12 · 29/08/2023 15:43

Terrifying to think that an educator of children believes that the state removing our rights over our own bodies would be a good thing.

Oh grow up. I take it you do not have a life long disability that was caused by your mother taking drugs when you were in the womb? How dare you be so dismissive of the children and adults who are living with the results of such behaviour.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 29/08/2023 15:50

i think the OP is getting exactly what they wanted out of this thread

OhCrumbsWhereNow · 29/08/2023 15:51

whosaidtha · 29/08/2023 15:37

Has anyone here actually seen a newborn baby going through heroine withdrawal? Go and see the pain that they are suffering and then shout about bodily autonomy.

Yes, I have seen a baby with NAS - and she was never in any pain.

Have you?

SpidersAreShitheads · 29/08/2023 15:51

whosaidtha · 29/08/2023 15:37

Has anyone here actually seen a newborn baby going through heroine withdrawal? Go and see the pain that they are suffering and then shout about bodily autonomy.

I think we all agree that it's horrific and ideally there would be a way to prevent this.

But PP aren't just shouting "my body, my rights" - there are also serious ethical questions about how this policy could ever be implemented and where the line would be drawn.

It would also require a very fundamental change in the law because at present, there is nothing which provides the foetus with individual rights. If that was changed, there could be very far-reaching effects which go way beyond just protecting unborn foetuses from harm. For example, at what point do you give the foetus rights - all the way through pregnancy? So no legal abortions then. What about if the mother was diagnosed with cancer and the only way for her to get life-saving treatment is to deliver the baby very early, and hope that it survives but delivering early is a huge risk - that would put the best interests of the foetus in direct conflict with the best interests of the woman, which takes precedence?

That's just a couple of things off the top of my head. We all know alcohol and substance abuse during pregnancy can have horrific consequences. It's just how it could possibly be implemented and where you would draw the line. And then once you establish that line, how do you prevent the precedent being implemented elsewhere - if women (typically) make a decision that's not in the best interests of others, if you lock them up when they're pregnant, you've already established they can be forced to comply against their wishes...how do you stop the same principle being used in other situations? It's not a good idea to give the state the right to decide what life choices you make - just look at what happens in the countries where this is reality now.

Redrunnynose · 29/08/2023 15:51

Reallybadidea · 29/08/2023 13:57

Can you explain the logistics of how this would be enforced? I imagine it would require compulsory blood tests involving restraint of any women who didn't consent.

Also, why stop at pregnancy? Perhaps we should prevent all women who aren't in optimal health from becoming pregnant as a number of conditions including diabetes, obesity etc can increase long term risks for unborn babies.

While we're at it, let's make sure that only those who have no family history of genetic diseases get pregnant.

See where this is heading?

🙄

EveSix · 29/08/2023 15:53

OP, I too am a primary teacher and have worked with several children impacted by in utero alcohol and substance misuse.

I absolutely share the helplessness and sadness you feel, and have found this a really tricky part of my job, working for a long time in a school where I am now teaching the children of some of my first pupils, whose lives have all effected by maternal alcoholism and drug use in two generations. It's so hard.

Of course it's a slippery slope and we cannot cherry pick concerning women's bodily autonomy. The answer has got to be more support, better services, easier access to early help ‐with housing, addiction, employment, mental health, domestic abuse, childcare, mentoring, respite, benefits‐ a massive package for mother and baby from the moment of conception, better still; for all vulnerable women and girls.