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Returned home after major shoulder surgery

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BadLuck2023 · 29/08/2023 02:27

Husband walked through the door with a cold, moaning like he was dying taking some panadol,meanwhile I'm on the couch out of it and in pain. Took him half hour to ask how I was doing.

Aibu to be annoyed with this? He has a cold and I'm recovering from a big surgery and felt like chopped liver

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LordSalem · 29/08/2023 02:55

Smack him hard with a pan (with the other arm).
Seriously though, make a point of getting his full attention. Though you shouldn’t fucking have to, make it completely clear that you are in pain and you now require looking after. He can suffer from man flu some other time. Make it clear that if he doesn't step up and put you instead of his selfish arse first then there's going to be a massive issue. He's being a dick and acting like a helpless baby. Point that out. He needs to pull up his big boy pants and realise it's not all about him, there are bigger priorities and being in a relationship means considering another fucking person. I'd fucking say that as well.

Chantholtmouse · 29/08/2023 03:43

Sounds like a dick. Fwiw I wouldn't want to be around someone with a cold after shoulder surgery. If you catch it and end up with a cough or sneezing it could really hurt.

Mothership4two · 29/08/2023 03:51

YANBU

Hope you made very sarcastic comments about his serious illness OP. Hope he is looking after you otherwise and hope you feel better soon.

CalistoNoSolo · 29/08/2023 04:32

Yeh, he's a twat who's minimising your surgery so the attention stays on him. Is he usually so selfish?

Hibiscrubbed · 29/08/2023 09:04

CalistoNoSolo · 29/08/2023 04:32

Yeh, he's a twat who's minimising your surgery so the attention stays on him. Is he usually so selfish?

I HATE men that do this. There’s plenty of them about.

Thelonelygiraffe · 29/08/2023 16:29

LordSalem · 29/08/2023 02:55

Smack him hard with a pan (with the other arm).
Seriously though, make a point of getting his full attention. Though you shouldn’t fucking have to, make it completely clear that you are in pain and you now require looking after. He can suffer from man flu some other time. Make it clear that if he doesn't step up and put you instead of his selfish arse first then there's going to be a massive issue. He's being a dick and acting like a helpless baby. Point that out. He needs to pull up his big boy pants and realise it's not all about him, there are bigger priorities and being in a relationship means considering another fucking person. I'd fucking say that as well.

Fucking this!

I hope you feel better soon, op.

Tiddlywinks63 · 29/08/2023 16:31

I’ve actually decided that the next time I’m admitted I am booking myself into a hotel for the recovery period and bugger the cost.
I cannot face him doing sweet fa and what little he does do being done deliberately badly so I don’t ask him again (plenty of experience of this!)
I should have left him many years ago I guess….

Newestname002 · 29/08/2023 23:51

@Tiddlywinks63

I should have left him many years ago I guess….

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