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Been on my own all weekend

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Betteroffbymyself88 · 28/08/2023 22:10

Dh and I have always been independent and have never been a couple who have to be together 24/7, probably why we have been together nearly 20 years

However we have 2 small children (8 and 3) and I have been on my own with them all weekend as DH has been out. And not at work.

Friday afternoon he went out drinking with a friend, left at 10am, came in at 2am

Saturday he was at a sporting event (has a season ticket) again left at 11am came home about 8pm

Sunday he was out all day with friends, out at 11am and back about 1am this morning

Today as he is working a night shift tonight he has spent all day in bed (from 2am until 7pm tonight) and then moaned at me as youngest was being naughty so got told off and the crying from youngest woke him up!

A weekend of DH being out all weekend wouldn't normally bother me but its been 3 full on days (I've made sure the kids have been out somewhere everyday) I'm back to work tomorrow and am exhausted and realised I haven't had a break all weekend.

OP posts:
Mariposista · 28/08/2023 22:53

Betteroffbymyself88 · 28/08/2023 22:22

Probably should add this isn't unusual, there are many weekends when he will be out Saturday and Sunday, I think the extra day and the Friday night has just high lighted it

And I maybe get to go out for lunch with a friend maybe once every 3 months.

Sorry OP bit you need to be more forthright or he will keep doing it. Book yourself 4 days away. If a friend won’t come, go alone. A lunch every now and again is not downtime.

Pallisers · 28/08/2023 22:55

Why on earth didn't you say to him on Sunday morning "Ah no, you are responsible for the kids today. I'm off out myself" Was it because you knew it would cause a fight or he'd go anyway.

He is useless and a complete user and waster. Don't put up with this. Y

isthatmyage · 28/08/2023 23:05

OP, you posted on here,you know this isn't right or fair....stand your ground with him and get some time back and then a level playing field going forward x

pinkdelight · 28/08/2023 23:05

And I maybe get to go out for lunch with a friend maybe once every 3 months.

But why - what are the conversations you're having that means he "gets to" go out and you don't? When you say - next weekend I'm out all Saturday and Sunday, what does he say? And when you say - I can because you do it all the time and it's my turn now, what does he say to that? Help us understand how it's come to this situation where the kids are your weekend responsibility and not his?

MsRosley · 28/08/2023 23:20

Why are you putting up with it, OP? This is blatantly unfair.

StJulian2023 · 28/08/2023 23:26

MsRosley · 28/08/2023 23:20

Why are you putting up with it, OP? This is blatantly unfair.

Yes why? Sounds like I get more of a break and my DH died nearly seven years ago!

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 29/08/2023 10:19

No this isn't ok. I just got annoyed with my husband as he is joining a new band and will have to rehearse all day every other Sunday to start off and we just have one 10 year old! I was probably being a bit unreasonable there but what your husband is doing is not on at all

Herecomestreble1 · 29/08/2023 10:31

Your husband is a dickhead.

NewName122 · 29/08/2023 13:23

He has 2 children and a wife and acts like that? Wow. Is he actually a decent father and husband? Really does not sound it.

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