To feel close to having a breakdown

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I really feel like on the edge constantly, things feel really overwhelming and even little things are tipping me over the edge on a daily basis. But I don't know if I'm being unreasonable to feel this way. Maybe I'm just really weak?

I feel completely overwhelmed by everything I have to do and feel unsupported by my husband, it's just one thing after another and I feel like I'm carrying all the mental load.

Has anyone else experienced this?

i feel similar to you on a regular basis. life can be tough although it can be fab too......never wake up feeling happy, just scared.

Hi yes I have twice. I felt so angry all the time. It's not even that my husband didn't pull his weight it's just everything I had to do on top of a stressful job. It took a while to fully recover but it does happen so hang in there. Some of the things I did won't be relevant to you but hopefully some will help:

I addressed issues at work and forced myself to become better at setting boundaries. I told my manager and colleagues I was struggling and I sold it to myself that it was unfair on my children for me to not implement boundaries. In the end I left my job because it was never going to get better but not everyone has that option. I do need to work financially but I did take a few weeks off and used the minimal savings we had to survive.

I got on anti depressants asap. I know not many agree with them but they made a huge difference.

I hired a cleaner. Again not always possible but worth sacrificing something else for if at all possible.

I let some stuff go such as doing the PTA and extra stuff with dc.

I dropped the gym for a time as it was stressful fitting it in.

I cut back my dcs extra curriculars to a manageable amount and told dh he was in charge of some and let it go.

I ate what I wanted when I wanted without guilt. Trying to make meals from fresh is an extra burden and while important everyone will survive for a while until you feel better. Denying myself certain foods made me feel crap.

I gave up alcohol. That seems counter productive but it just makes you more anxious in the end anyway.

I told dh that we are now going to be a bit selfish and not totally focus on the dc 100% of the time. Of course we met their needs well but we stopped allowing them to interrupt us and dictating everything we do. We stopped putting ourselves and our relationship last.

Lots of it is acceptance and that's not easy but you have to tell yourself over and over it's ok and normal to feel this way from time to time.

I got a diagnosis of adhd in the end and stated in medicine and it's changed my life.

You can and will get through this but you have to put yourself first and be selfish for a time.

Sounds like anxiety to me… have you tried writing down all your feelings? Ruminating is such a nuisance as it causes you to feel anxious without knowing why. I tried yoga, my Christian faith and writing down feelings. One weekend I couldn’t sleep or calm down at all and went to my GP and now I take ecitoprazolam. Now I feel normal but I have to avoid alcohol, Excercise everyday and sleep well.. hope you feel better soon, start writing it out and ask yourself is it real ? Or is it fear? And go see your GP

Absolutely. Also living through this at the moment. The constant overwhelming feeling is awful! At the moment it's noise. Does to much noise trigger you too? I literally have to put my hands over my ears sometimes. Also very weak (and dizzy!) doctors can't work out what the hell is wrong with me. Do you have dizziness too? Do you have children? The holidays really don't help. Trying to entertain a 10 year old and a 1 year old at the same time is hard. Your not alone. Keep going. ❤️

But why exactly

The things you cut out that you say were causing you stress, some of them could possibly relieve stress too? Just take it slowly but look at some of the stuff you let go and see if you just maybe need it at a lower Amy but still there. Financially if you think you can have a cleaner do, but the financial burden might become more stressful? And see maybe with the kids extracurriculars- of course too many get out of control, but it might give you some time to just sit and them to let off some steam if they enjoy it. Best of luck op

I felt like this after I had my second (some sort of post partum mental thing) and during lockdown when I was overwhelmed with demands. It’s an extreme stress reaction. If possible, you need to rope in people to help/ work out what you can delegate or drop/scale down in your life, set strict boundaries around what people require of you and take some time to do activities that recalibrate your nervous system e.g a minute or two of deep breathing, a walk in the woods, yoga, 1/2 hour of tv, cycle aggressively up a hill thinking about all the things that piss you off then enjoy the endorphin rush.

Sorry you are going through this but it’s often a sign that you are handling too much and things need to change. I hope things get better for you soon x