AIBU to wish that other children's mums would not dish out chocolate to my DD at school?

[BlueCornflower]

My 4 year old came home from school with a creme egg yesterday as one of the mums of the class wanted to give all the children a 'pre-Easter' present. (It was February!). I know it was a kind gesture but I do feel annoyed that someone else can give my child something which I wouldn't acually have given her myself unless it was a very special treat. I could hardly tell her she couldn't have it. I'm not REALLY annoyed by it and wouldn't have minded if it was this child's birthday but I just wish other parents wouldn't do this. AIBU?

[PaulaYatesBiggestFan]

how silly wallofsilence

people have different bugbears

[purpleduck]

Have read most of the thread

Hasn't anyone said "put it in the cupboard for "later" then eat it when dc has forgotten about it" ?



Hate creme eggs though, but often use this tactic with other goodies which are obviously bad for their teeth/health

[expatinscotland]

LOL! my dad's got the biggest sweet tooth of almost anyone i've met.

not a filling in his entire mouth. he's nearly 72 and has all his teeth.

he was bf'd for 2 years, though, that must be it (not because she was lentil-weavy, but because it was 1936, they were dirt poor and even if there had been formula they couldn't have afforded it).

[WallOfSilence]

What's silly paulayates?

explain pls.

[PaulaYatesBiggestFan]

thats funny hatrick

at school i have told teachers not to give ds sweets but i do allow cookies etc

i am strict but also do not want a baby tantrumming over what brother has

[Flibbertyjibbet]

So someone gave your child chocolate to take home, where the decision of whether she would eat it now, later or not at all was entirely yours.
Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, we would put it in the cupboard to have another time.

I would have been cross if ds came home covered in creme egg saying that someone had been giving them out and they'd all scoffed them.

[carmenelectra]

Cant remember last time i had a filling(although admittedly i have a couple, but it was yrs and yrs ago).I would be very surprised if ds 1 got a filling. Im very particular about teeth.

Self righteous people i previously mentioned who i know, have got mouthful of them

[PaulaYatesBiggestFan]

my mouth is magnetic

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

Well, I dont much like it, but, unfortunately, unlike others on here who dont have to worry about such things as a little bit of chocolate.....my DD has a peanut allergy and lots of chocolate products are not 'safe'. So, yes, I object. Mainly because the alternative is a box of raisins (which lets face it, doesnt come in a shiny wrapper and just isnt what everyone else is getting), or a lump of fruit.

It sucks.

I hate it.

I wish they'd check what other children can have first. But then, why should everyone consider my childs health and welfare???

[cornsilk]

In a situation like that I think that parents should be asked not to bring in sweets or chocolate on health and safety grounds.

[AbbeyA]

Have you told them about the peanut allergy? In one family I know the father went in and talked to the class about his DSs special diet and the children were really sweet and always took something a bit special instead.

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

I agree cornsilk. Unfortunately many others dont.

The suggestion of bringing her own treats comes into it, and the fact remains that she is still being excluded on the basis that she can't go up and pick a 'treat' up out of the basket. She has to be kept back and given something separately.

I find it really upsetting to watch actually. (It's always done at the end of the school day as they leave the classroom so I get to see it each time).

[carmenelectra]

Yes if they have fillings and want to prevent it it happenning to their kids i do agree. But you can have nice things and not have manky teeth. I look after my teeth very well and clean them several times a day and have done since i was a kid

I just think that unless you feed shitloads of crap to your kids its ok not to worry when someone gives then sweets or choc and a lovely gesture for them to hand it out as a little present.

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

Abbey - I've been as vocal as I can about it. DD has an epipen permanently placed in the classroom.

One of the parents I've told at least half a dozen times as DD has been there for tea.

Our DD's often share after school treats (well, not so much DD because I dont tend to give them ), and this parent often brings up a snickers bar for this girl, and then makes a point of saying "oh, your DD cant have it". yes i farking know

[AbbeyA]

That is so sad if you have told them, it doesn't take much to get something a bit different.

[Judy1234]

Easter bunny (sugar and chocolate never being part of the Christian tradition of course nor Easter) is a drugs peddler probably in the pay of the sugar corporations.

Watch the two Big Sugar films.
video.google.com/videoplay?docid=8046348031279865399

One is about the history of the sugar trade, how it really in a sense caused the slave trade etc and the second is about the effect on sugar on us today. I am not sure which of the two big sugar documentaries is on the link above.

[PeachesMcLean]

So Xenia, are you suggesting that the history of the sugar industry is a good enough reason not to give your children chocolate? Or is that just out of general interest?

[AbbeyA]

Speaking as the mother of teenagers, I think that the relaxed attitude pays off in the end. When they were little, and I had full control,they didn't have many but they had them as an occasional treat. If they were given them coming out of nursery or school I didn't spoil it for them by taking them off them (or saying they were unsuitable I would exchange them!)although I might have asked them to wait until we had had lunch, tea whatever first. There then comes a time when they have some money of their own and I don't believe you can spoil that for them by dictating what it is spent on. At the stage of upper juniors they probably had more than I would have chosen (but not excessive)and now that they are teenagers they very rarely buy themselves sweets and I don't have them in the house, except when given as presents.I believe it was because it didn't become a big issue, they know by example what a healthy diet is-I think it would have been very different if sweets had been labelled 'bad' and banned.
The eldest and youngest have no fillings and the middle one has 2 small fillings. You can eat sweets and then brush the teeth!