AIBU to wish that other children's mums would not dish out chocolate to my DD at school?

[BlueCornflower]

My 4 year old came home from school with a creme egg yesterday as one of the mums of the class wanted to give all the children a 'pre-Easter' present. (It was February!). I know it was a kind gesture but I do feel annoyed that someone else can give my child something which I wouldn't acually have given her myself unless it was a very special treat. I could hardly tell her she couldn't have it. I'm not REALLY annoyed by it and wouldn't have minded if it was this child's birthday but I just wish other parents wouldn't do this. AIBU?

[Journey]

I find these threads about giving children chocolate rather odd. We all know about healthy eating - it is hardly rocket science. It is one of these threads were the op starts it knowing they will get support.

My concern about 4 year olds getting a creme egg would be the mess they would make.

[edam]

Wouldn't bother me in in the slightest.

I do look a bit at the mother who meets her dds (one in ds's class) and doles out biscuits/cakes/chocolates in the playground. Bit irritating because then ds pesters me and wants to know why he hasn't got chocolate. But hey ho, it's only a minor irritant. (Her children are notoriously fussy eaters, don't know if the two are connected, but the thought of it cheers me up whenever she's being too Miss Bloody Perfect.)

[bramblebooks]

It bothers me, but then my ds is diabetic and can't eat loads of chocolate. We've twice this week had to deal with him absolutely heartbroken as he can't join in with his mates chowing down on bags of the stuff from friends at birthday time. His has to go into his bag and be brought home so that I can give him an appropriate insulin dose.

A couple of weeks ago he decided he'd eat the chocolate along with the others and was ill, as in hyperglycaemic. It took me until 1am to get him to bed and he was having anxiety palpitations which are some of the side effects when he's 'high'.

I don't want to spoil the fun, but I wish these things could be put straight into their bags and all of the children were encouraged to take them home rather than eat them straight away.

[DoodleToYou]

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[wheresthehamster]

Bramble - it wouldn't be unreasonable to ask that sweets be doled out at the end of the day. Our birthday child stands at the exit door with the sweet bag so that the time between giving out the sweet and meeting mum is only a few seconds. It would ony be a very determined child who could get the wrapper off and devour it before mum stepped in!

[bigbumhole]

I have to say 1 creme egg wouldn't bother me really, i guess when kids are in school it's inevitable that they'll come home with all sort of stuff that the parents don't particulary approve of.

I can however understand you being a bit miffed for it being an Easter gift this early in the year! But jeeez buying all those creame eggs must have cost her a small fortune!

If it was me, i'd look at it as a kind gesture from another parent

[Kimi]

Hello yurt and cappuccino, may I join you

[Saggarmakersbottomknocker]

I'd be bloody furious TBH







But only because it was a Creme Egg . Now one of those Lindor ones and I'd be positively beaming.

[expatinscotland]

I have other things to worry about than kids getting a bit of chocolate in school.

[expatinscotland]

It seems to me too bad that people get all het up about a little bit of kindness these days.

I'd have taken it as a very nice gesture.

It's common around here.

People are kind on the whole.

Far be it from me to throw that in their faces.

[hercules1]

SOunds like a really nice gesture to do.

[princessmel]

I would not mind at all.
Ds would be very happy.

[princessmel]

But if I knew someone in ds's class had an allergy or was diabetic/coeliac etc then maybe you would have to have them put straight in the bags or provide a safe alternative for that child. I would if I knew about it.

[Troutpout]

YANBU to wish it...but these things happen...and she was trying to do something nice i guess. It wouldn't bother me in the slightest though tbh (mmm can i ave it!)
.She doesn't have to have it if you don't want her to.
Just say no and bin it if you think it is bad for her
Ds and dd aren't allowed nuts ( they frequently walk out of school with choc with nuts in). I am allergic

[Judy1234]

And not all chocolate is kosher etc

It's not kind to peddle junk food and get children addicted to it. Not kind at all . Just shows people don't care about health and want other children in the class to eat as badly as they do. it's like walking up to the school gates with a big sign round your neck saying you're a bad mother. Go on advertise the fact give everyone sweets all the time.

[bramblebooks]

True, hamster, and they are given out at the end of the day. However that's the problem as I work part time and my child minder can't always step in there as there are other children for her to watch. My lad knows that he needs to save the choc for later, but it really upsets him that he has to when all of his mates are eating theirs.

Ah well.

[VanillaPumpkin]

Oooh, I am one of those parents who meets dd1 in the playground with a snack straight after school. I cannot tell you the difference it makes to her behaviour! To be fair though the snack is usually a banana or box of raisins or cream crackers, but penguin biscuits have been known .

[marmadukescarlet]

I'm a complete food facist fanatic, in our home if it's not healthy or homemade it doesn't get on a plate (virtually).

But even I cannot work myself up about the things my DD is given at parties or for treats at school, it is a tiny % of her overall intake.

She knows to bring whatever it is home to go in the sweet cupboard, can only be eaten after a meal usually on a friday - but this is not hard and fast rule. Saves me ever having to buy anything.

My DH had all sweets and sweet things heavily restricted as a child he can now eat sweets etc for England. (Whole packs of marzipan etc)

His 2 sisters really restrict what their DCs eat, once a 6 yr old cousin offered my (then) 6 yr old dd some sweets (her mother made her ask my permission first, to which I countered to ask my DD not me) and my dd looked, "no thanks" she said. SIL was open mouthed, "how did you get her to do that?" she asked.

[lennygrrl]

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[AbbeyA]

I think that all this rigid policing of food is setting up eating problems later. It is very wrong to give messages about 'good' food and 'bad food'. If you provide a healthy diet at home the odd sweet isn't going to matter. It takes all the joy out of childhood! I can't imagine being given a creme egg as a child only to have it confiscated, or even worse have my mother vet what I'm given and exchanged for something she deems more wholesome or suitable! You can do it when they are in the infants but by the time I was in the juniors and was not met at the classroom door I would have made sure that I had eaten it before my mother saw it! Have the rigid controllers thought when they are going to stop? If the DC's have their own money are you going to tell them what they can or cannot buy? Are you going to stop at 7yrs-11yrs -16 yrs? You have to stop at some point! All the DCs I know who are denied sweets gorge on them when given the chance (their parents don't know this as they take good care to hide it). My DSs have had sweets-it has not been an issue-they never eat many, they are not too bothered. I certainly wouldn't get upset about a creme egg!

[HappyMummyOfOne]

Wouldnt have bothered me either, unless DS didnt let me have a bite

Bit early for an easter pressie but a nice thing to do.

[expatinscotland]

FGS, Xenia, you can't really be that much of a buzzkill IRL?!

[expatinscotland]

It's a creme egg, not a wrap of coke or a balloon full of heroin.

[Psychomum5]

wouldn't bother me TBH, altho I did get riled recently when DS2 (4 at the time), came home with some foreign chewing gum that a child had bought in to share with the class....I don;t agree with chewing gum, and for mine, they get it after their 7th b/day only (if only because by then they tend to not get it in their hair).

I would sob tho if mine came home with a creme egg, as this year I can't have them being allergic to dairy (and so to chocolate). I feel irrationally this year as tho I may need to cancel all chocolate at easter!