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AIBU?

AIBU to wish that other children's mums would not dish out chocolate to my DD at school?

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BlueCornflower · 01/03/2008 16:00

My 4 year old came home from school with a creme egg yesterday as one of the mums of the class wanted to give all the children a 'pre-Easter' present. (It was February!). I know it was a kind gesture but I do feel annoyed that someone else can give my child something which I wouldn't acually have given her myself unless it was a very special treat. I could hardly tell her she couldn't have it. I'm not REALLY annoyed by it and wouldn't have minded if it was this child's birthday but I just wish other parents wouldn't do this. AIBU?

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VanillaPumpkin · 03/03/2008 21:40

Great, thank you. I have to go to Asda or Woolies anyway to get Easter eggs for the toddler group so that will be perfect!

ALMummy · 03/03/2008 20:37

Try Woolworths or Asda - they do big packs of party favour type toys for about £1.99. It ended up costing me about £8.00 to do the lot and I had some left over to take back. I got too many just in case - not only would I have been guilty of providing plastic tat to kids but to not even have enough? My DS's primary school career would have been over before it even started.

yurt1 · 03/03/2008 20:30

Do it vanilla. It's happened a few times in ds2's class and I've never heard anyone complain.

VanillaPumpkin · 03/03/2008 20:17

Oh, that makes me feel better. As much as I don't care about someone else giving my children a creme egg as I said before I very very rarely buy my children any chocolate so it feels a bit odd to dish it out to 30 others . I will see what I can find and if nothing then they can all have a mini Milky way!

ALMummy · 03/03/2008 20:10

VanillaPumpkin - DO IT PLEASE! I didnt take any notice of the 'advice' given and did it anyway. The kids absolutely loved it and my DS was really proud and happy handing them round. All the kids were running out to show their Mums their tiaras or medals and waving their wands and were really happy. I am really glad I did it and a few mums said thanks the next day. I didnt care about that though it was just for DS really.

VanillaPumpkin · 03/03/2008 16:55

ALMummy - Oh no! I was going to do that for dd1's birthday as it is over the Easter break so I thought there would be alot of chocolate around . Perhaps I will miss it out altogether...Gah! I think I am already thought of as a try hard suck up as I help out one morning .

contentiouscat · 03/03/2008 14:18

AL - I really wouldnt worry about it, I would think "how nice" some people have too much time on their hands and just want something to get annoyed about If someone is going to get themselves into a lather about a bit of plastic then they just arent worth the effort.

contentiouscat · 03/03/2008 14:14

"Barbie just simpered about in front of her dressing table mirror " pmsl

Sorry cant be bothered to worry about Bratz or chocolate I think there are so many important things to worry about in this world.

DS loathes cadburys creme eggs but comes out every time someone has a birthday with a little pack of sweets and says "I will have them once I have eaten my lunch" if he doesnt eat his lunch he doesnt have the sweets EASY

ALMummy · 03/03/2008 14:09

Just to kick things off further on DS 5th birthday I took little gifts for all the kids costing no more than about 20p each - lucky dip type stuff, tiaras, bracelets and wands for the girls and little parachuting men or gold medals for the boys. I posted on mnet to find out opinions on doing this and was generally slated for it. Apparently it is trying too hard, putting pressure on those who cant be bothered and myself and DS may well now be affected in the primary school popularity stakes. I didnt want to take sweets because they always get sweets and cakes, but apparently what I did was all wrong too. You cant win really can you?

princessosyth · 03/03/2008 14:08

It isn't the chocolate that bothers me, ds has creme eggs. It is the thing of providing easter eggs in February and the whole idea of bringing treats into class for no particular reason, I would be just as perplexed and annoyed if they were handing out organic raisins. If you want to give your kids chocolate, go ahead but there is no reason to involve everyone else in it. [miserable bugger emoticon]

morningglory · 03/03/2008 14:02

Anna888: we were looking at French schools for our DSs here in London, and all of the state ones (the ones in the Lycee Francais system) had croissants, pain au chocolate, and pain au raisins being sold upon exit of the school. My observation was that many of the French mothers were allowing their children to partake.

DH is French and has a massive sweet tooth, encouraged by his mother during his upbringing in FRANCE (his gouter was always rice pudding with caramel). To this day, when we are at their house, she makes him a bowel of hot chocolate for breakfast. Also, Air France is the only airline to offer hot chocolate during their breakfast service.

redwino · 03/03/2008 12:59

Schools are supposed to have a food policy which covers these sorts of issues. Ask to see it.

SmartArse · 03/03/2008 12:53

Good point, Snorris - you don't want anyone thinking there are nicer mums than you!

I don't give a monkeys about anyone giving my DCs chocolate - lucky them, I say. But I do object to it being related to Easter in any way, so long before Easter.

snorris · 03/03/2008 12:49

I get annoyed too. It means I also have to shell out on sweets for the class.

SmartArse · 03/03/2008 11:55

I wish someone would give my DCs chocolate at school. It would save me feeding them.

I once had a little girl of about 5 over to play with DD2. They'd been out in the garden for about an hour before she came in complaining that her foot hurt. I took off her shoe to have a look, and found a melted, squashed, Creme Egg in the toe. Most odd.

bookwormmum · 03/03/2008 11:51

it's a nice idea but it's far too early for Easter Eggs - my dd is banned from eating chocolate Sunday-Thursday btw. if she gets it in school then she is allowed it.

mind if everyone in the class had the same idea, then there'd be 30 creme eggs coming home .

[feeling sick]

wannaBe · 03/03/2008 11:44

nope couldn't be bothered about that im afraid. in fact...

I made chocolate chip cookies for my ds' class and they had them at snack time. Parents would have been none the wiser until the cookies had been well and truely eaten and digested. do I care? Not a bit. It's a cookie/piece of chocolate fgs - far greater things in life to get upset about.

Oh and, I checked with teacher first re alergies and made meringues for the child who was not allowed glutin so no child was put at risk.

shatteredmumsrus · 03/03/2008 11:39

I wouldnt care either, its only an chocolate egg. I would care if my child was allergic to it though and i would be annoyed if they had chocolate and i didnt, sorry

DualCycloneCod · 03/03/2008 11:33

im with cappy
idontc are

you need to get a life

Cappuccino · 03/03/2008 11:32

had to come back to this thread after my two (3 and 7) had creme eggs in a cafe on Sunday

it was my mother's day treat and creme eggs were much cheaper than the organic homemade cakes, which were too big for them to have one each and they were too stroppy to pick the same one to share

Elasticwoman · 03/03/2008 10:00

OP - I agree with you. I remember being v sick after a creme egg when I was 12.

It is hard to resist this sort of thing, esp if teachers do it too, though these days they are more likely to give out stickers than edible rewards.

You would not be unreasonable - though you would be brave - to tell the teacher, whose co-operation is probably needed in the distribution, and ask if this practice could stop. Also if it happens again, you could return the sweets to the parent concerned.

I knew a mother who would not let her dc have sweets at all till age 10. By the time she told me this, her eldest was 28 and still had perfect teeth. But the mother could not keep up the prohibition with her younger children, once the older ones had sweets.

seeker · 02/03/2008 21:51

My PFB couldn't have eaten a whole creme egg at 4. She would have brought it to me and said"Oh dear, mummy, it's sweeties and we only have sweeties on Saturday don't we? Shall I put it away in the cupboard?" My NSB could have eaten 6, hidden the wrappings and blamed any chocolate smears on the furniture on his big sister at 3!

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deste · 02/03/2008 21:32

Why dont you have one day at the weekend when your children can have sweets. They then put anything they are given away for the weekend. Simple.

BlueCornflower · 02/03/2008 21:18

Just looking in again - didn't realise this would turn into such a debate!
Anna - er, thanks for your original suggestion about writing to the head but I don't think I'll do that. I do think, though, that it might be a good idea for schools to suggest that parents did not send in food to be given out. If it is a birthday (which it wasn't on Friday), I don't see why the child can't just give out sweets / chocolate to those children they invite to their party.
Princess - Like it!
Hatrick - YES easily! But I think creme eggs are miles smaller than they used to be (isn't everything?)

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MadamePlatypus · 02/03/2008 18:41

princessosyth, you have hit the nail on the head.

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